WIBTA for not inviting my close friend to a DnD game I'm starting up?
I (30/m) am very confident that she (31/f) would say 'yes' if I invited her, but I have a few reasons that I'm hesitant to invite her:
Her ex-fiancé will likely be in the game. I'm very close friends with him as well (I actually knew him first). They're both great, it just didn't work out between them.
She has pretty severe/poorly managed ADHD and she gets very distracted during sessions, which has been a point of tension in other games she and I have been a part of. She also "lives on (what she calls) ADHD time" and is constantly late to things.
Even though I think she'll likely say she's interested, I really don't think she has the bandwidth to commit to a game like this; she has a lot going on to the point that she's barely responding to messages (and when I recently ran a DnD game with her in it, she missed ~2/3 of the sessions), which is normally fine, but when it's about time-sensitive scheduling, it's kind of a pain.
I want to stress that she's not a bad person; she's kind, funny and generous and literally once helped save my life.
With that said, I am hesitant to invite her because I feel inviting her would overall be disruptive to the game for both me and the other players.
On the other hand, it's entirely possible I'm being overly paternalistic, and that I really should be letting her be the one to make these decisions.
To provide a bit more context: the game is a recurring, weekly commitment, averaging 3-4 hours per session. Missing an occasional session is fine (and expected, tbh), but missing or being late to a majority is disruptive.
Help me out, reddit!
Thanks