what do i do when the person i love doesn't want to get better?
i'm 20 and the person i love is 27. i try my best find ways to self improve every day and i'm able to progress towards my own goals no matter how small they are (ex. taking a shower, brushing teeth). we both suffer from depression and anxiety but i'm now taking medication to combat it. i'm in and out of jobs due to my family and personal situation but i have a plan moving forward these days in furthering my education and pursuing different occupations. the person i love lives in southeast asia while i live in the states. they have been out of a job since they graduated college and have been a hikkimori since then. we are online friends and we used to online date, but now we are back to be being really close friends that talk every day for most of the day. they are the only friend i really talk to which i'm okay with. relationships with people besides my family have never really been something i try too hard at. i try my best every day to be supportive but nothing i do seems to beat their anxiety. i don't blame them. i deal with my mental health every day as well and i'm just worried how this will affect mine in the long run. i want to be there for them every step of the way but how do i also live my life while doing that? what do i? how can i help them if their anxiety tells them they don't want to try to be better anymore?
tldr: the person i love's mental health leads them to believe they don't want to get better. what do i do to help them?