How I understand the reincarnation trap
The mind has been conditioned to view the physical world as its home, and thus it naturally views death as scary, because the unfamiliar often triggers fear. The mind wants to persist, but it associates existing as living in the physical world and panics, trying to find a way back. When we die, we go to the mental/astral/spiritual realms. Particularly as we are transitioning and our physical brain activity is shut down we are in a more subjective individual astral plane, the entities that operate the system examine our mind, and notices what is most comforting to us, whether that be a religious figure, pet, family, loved one, etc. The astral plane then manifests this, often with light as our biological self is evolved to fear dark and seek light. And because our mind is trying to persist and avoid fear it will subconsciously gravitate towards these and get forced back into the system. Due to this, I think the method of escape is to deny all that seeks to comfort us, the escape will likely be an uncomfortable thing, where we have to take control of our mind, emotions, impulses, even moral impulses, until we completely defy our instinct. The solution is utter detachment, and something along the line of what Daoists call Zhenren.