https://people.com/william-shatner-daughter-melanie-fought-stage-4-cancer-together-exclusive-12023877. stage 4 melanoma at 90yrs old... good story. point is stats are stats. who knows where you lie on the curve. i just had phase 1a melanoma. my dad just diagnosis with stage 4 throat cancer. seeking top doctors and attitude is the key.
So my partners 21 y/o son uses his extra vehicle summers and breaks. He doesn’t have a job as of yet. My partner has been on him about that and also this has either autism or some type of mental illness but refuses to see anyone or get help. When you meet him you can tell there is something off. His son was local to us Thurs night. I was staying elsewhere for work. My partner invited him for dinner son agreed. Partner ordered takeout son never showed up he got caught up with friends. My partner laid into him. Son got hurt in his feel feels. My partner called the next day. Son said “ I need space”. I told my partner he’s manipulating you. My partner doesn’t want to hear it. The vehicle needs to be inspected Monday. Son texted my partner and said “ I will drop vehicle off at grandpas” basically he’s avoiding dropping it off at our place to avoid my partner. Partner was really upset so I said don’t let him drive it anymore. Partner said mind your own Business. I didn’t say another word. I’ve had it with his entitled mentally ill kids as well as his toxic family. Im thinking about baring them from my house. For context partner lives with me and pays utilities and food. Am I being unreasonable here ?
For context my current partner lives with me in my place which I bought 20 years ago and it’s inexpensive to maintain. I pay the mtg and insurance he pays utilities and food but let me mention it costs him less than 1100 a month. He has 2 children one in college one working but in college at night. Partners ex wife gets 2k a month forever. She gets part of his pension. He lets her walk all over him. He’s expected to pay for college and cars and anything else. She even had the audacity to mention I have a good job when they were arguing over money insinuating I should pick up the household slack so he can give her more money. Both his kids are lazy and entitled which is hilarious because both parents rely on others to survive. She lives with her mother with the 2 kids. His 21 year old college aged son who takes 12 credits a semester and refuses to work except when forced in summer for a few weeks, uses my partners spare car all summer my partner pays all maintenance and insurance. He had to pick him up at his mothers house so his son could pick up the extra car cause god forbid she does anything she retired early thanks to my partner but I digress. My partner proceeded to fill up the car with gas and have it washed. That was it for me. I just snapped im tired of the enabling. He says not my business so I said actually you live here for less than 1100 a month and where we live an apt at min is 2500. So I replied yes it is because your ex and kids benefit indirectly because if you had to pay your own rent and bills you couldn’t afford to be Daddy Warbucks. I’m just fed up and I don’t see it getting better. After this I wouldn’t even consider someone with kids again I’m so sour. And don’t even get me started on his family. His father is obsessed with his ex going so far as sending her Valentines which is creepy.