Looking for insight
For context my current partner lives with me in my place which I bought 20 years ago and it’s inexpensive to maintain. I pay the mtg and insurance he pays utilities and food but let me mention it costs him less than 1100 a month. He has 2 children one in college one working but in college at night. Partners ex wife gets 2k a month forever. She gets part of his pension. He lets her walk all over him. He’s expected to pay for college and cars and anything else. She even had the audacity to mention I have a good job when they were arguing over money insinuating I should pick up the household slack so he can give her more money. Both his kids are lazy and entitled which is hilarious because both parents rely on others to survive. She lives with her mother with the 2 kids. His 21 year old college aged son who takes 12 credits a semester and refuses to work except when forced in summer for a few weeks, uses my partners spare car all summer my partner pays all maintenance and insurance. He had to pick him up at his mothers house so his son could pick up the extra car cause god forbid she does anything she retired early thanks to my partner but I digress. My partner proceeded to fill up the car with gas and have it washed. That was it for me. I just snapped im tired of the enabling. He says not my business so I said actually you live here for less than 1100 a month and where we live an apt at min is 2500. So I replied yes it is because your ex and kids benefit indirectly because if you had to pay your own rent and bills you couldn’t afford to be Daddy Warbucks. I’m just fed up and I don’t see it getting better. After this I wouldn’t even consider someone with kids again I’m so sour. And don’t even get me started on his family. His father is obsessed with his ex going so far as sending her Valentines which is creepy.