Am I wrong for blocking my mom after she spent a month catfishing guys as me on Tinder?
I am sitting here wondering if I am actually the insane one or if my mother has finally lost her last marble. For context I am twenty-eight and work in QA which means I have zero patience for things that do not function correctly. I have been single for about a year since my last relationship ended in a boring way and I have been enjoying the peace. My mom however treats my lack of a boyfriend like a personal failure on her part. She has been sending me links to articles about biological clocks and loneliness in old age for months. I ignored it because that is just how she is.
Last Tuesday I was getting coffee and this guy walks up to me with a huge grin and asks if I liked the book he suggested. I have never seen this man in my life. He starts talking about some obscure poet and how we agreed to meet up there at 10 AM. I basically had to tell him he had the wrong person but he showed me his phone. It was my face. The profile name was mine and the bio was some weird fan fiction version of my life where I love hiking and baking bread. I do neither of those things. I spent the next hour figuring out that my mom had used my old iPad that I left at her house to set up a Tinder account using my Instagram photos.
She did not even try to hide it when I called her. She told me she was pre-screening candidates because I am too picky and do not know what I want. Apparently she has been talking to over a dozen guys for a full month pretending to be me. She told one guy I wanted kids by next year. She told another that I am looking for a traditional provider. It is honestly disgusting. I felt like my skin was crawling knowing some random dudes think they know me when they were actually flirting with a sixty year old woman in a sweater vest. I took the iPad back and told her she is blocked until she goes to therapy.
Now the whole family is blowing up my phone. My aunt called me a cold-hearted brat for hurting my moms feelings when she was just trying to help. They say I am sabotaging my own happiness and that I should have just thanked her for the effort and taken over the matches she found. I feel like my privacy was absolutely violated but they are making me out to be the villain because she meant well. I am just tired of the drama and honestly I might just stay single forever if this is the alternative .