My(32F) Husband(M32) is planning to leave me to move back to India for his parents
We have been together 9.5 years and married for 2.5 years. I have been living in US for over 8 years and my husband moved here just after our marriage.
Before marriage, he insisted on moving US and building a life together and at some point moving back to India once we had achieved our career goals. He also portrayed himself that he cared about my career and would always support me.
Since moving to US, he has been very annoyed by the fact that he has to do chores, there is no express delivery aka cultural differences. After his parents visited last year's, he has been insisting on going back to India. And not just go back rather living together (us + my inlaws) in one home. And before marriage I had told him clearly, I can live near or nextdoor to in-laws but not one home.
Throughout the marriage even though I have spent minimal time with his parents but whenever I have there has always been a incident involving MIL where she is trying to control me and taunt me. And my husband in these situations is quite and later doesn't even acknowledge that what happened was not right.
Financially I have a lot of finances tied up in US so I can't up and leave. Also I have not achieved my career goals yet.
The trigger for the move is my MIL getting diagnosed with blockage in artery (65+ years) which all doctors have said can be manged by medication. But my husband insists that they can't do anything w/o him though they have been living a good life in their hometown surrounded by there friends for past 2.5 years while he has been in US.
I told my husband I need at least 3-4 years to achieve my goal and handle my finances before I can move to India. But he replied saying I can only wait a year and I am going to leave this year.
I am at a breaking point, where it feels like I waisted 9.5 years of my life with a man who protrayed himself to be modern and feminist but ended up being a patriach and showed his true colors after marriage.
What should I do?