I (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) are having issues because of his friends.
| (18F) and my boyfriend (M18) have been in a relationship for 3 years now. Recently he has been in contact with friends that he was close with prior to our relationship. This has caused issues in our relationship.
Firstly, this all began a few months back where my boyfriend got back into contact with a group of about 7-8 different boys. I didn't really know much about them just that he knew them from before as he attended school with them. I've noticed that ever since he's become friends with them again he has become a different person. Firstly, they send a lot of nudes of different women in this group chat. My boyfriend doesn't really interact with these messages but I find it uncomfortable that he's being sent naked pictures of girls our ages from his friends. As well as that, I've noticed that his friends are very disrespectful to women. There was a time where I seen some messages about them making grape jokes about one person's girlfriend in the group. Even though my boyfriend was not actively interacting with these messages, I still spoke to him about it as it made me feel very disgusted and uncomfortable. I spoke to him about how I feel these people are not good influences on him and joking about grape is a disgusting thing to do. He understood and explained that he has told them to stop but they do not listen. However, it makes me feel uneasy that he still associates with these people. It makes it worse that the girl they are speaking about is completely unaware and her boyfriend is in the group chat enabling the behaviour by not telling them to stop. There's just been a range of different issues that stem from this friendship. I think it's made us argue more as from how they speak and act i do not like when he is around them.
He gets angry at me if I mention him going out with them.
For example, last night I said to him "Why are you going out with them you know I don't like them." He responded back really just fed up because i've said this to him numerous times. He said that he's known them his whole life and that he can't inst not ston sneakina to them. I've also noticed that he prioritises these friends way more than he does me. I believe that in a relationship both individuals should have lives separate to each other.
However, I feel like it starts to become an issue when the individual consistently fails to make time for their significant other. This also gets him angry and fed up as every time he does something that makes me feel neglected I bring it up. The first few times he was very understanding about it but now he seems to have become increasingly more irritated about it. I'm unsure of what to do i've never really seen this side of my boyfriend as he's usually the type of person to shut down people if they do things that are disrespectful to women or his relationship. For example, he made a new friend in a different group. However, this friend would constantly send naked women to him in a group chat so he left it. I know i'm not overreacting but i'm not sure on how to navigate this situation going forward. What advice would be appropriate in this situation? Thank you.