AITA for wanting to save my relationship with my boyfriend when others think it won’t work?
Hi I’m new to posting on Reddit. However, I have been thinking about this issue that I wanted to see if I’m the only one. For this reason I’m not gonna go super detail about real names.
I F (25) have been with my boyfriend let’s call him John (27) for almost a year now. I met him near the end of the year sometime last year and we sorta clicked. I met him on a popular vr game at an instance that i usually went to meet new people in. When I first met him I thought he was funny, charming, and just a nice guy to talk to. Now let me set this to help with this post. On this game you can play with and talk to people from all over the world. He was from a different country than I am so he had a bit of an accent. Which I find adorable. Anyway we started talking more and thought we’d try long distance. Now I’ve been in a few long distance relationships before so I knew for the most part what’s better to help with it and little things to do to make it feel less lonely. Everything was fine for about half the year. We had the same routine we’d talk about our day watch a movie at night and have a sleep call. It was nice made us feel connected. He had said before he wanted to se end and visit and I thought it was sweet, but non of my long distance relationships had actually committed to doing what they said like that. However, a few months into my relationship one of my close family members got sick and I took care of them. Until one morning I found that they had passed. I was a mess with having to call family and friends. Tryna to figure out arrangements and not really knowing how to cope.
John was one of the first people I called right after it happened and all he said was he was coming. That he was gonna get a flight as soon as he could to come see me. I didn’t believe much about it until he did. I was shocked no one ever actually did that. Even with everything going on having him there was a blessing to me. When we went back he told all his friends that he loved me so much he wanted to do everything he could to have a future with me. After that however slowly he started pushing people away. He didn’t talk to him mother as much. Didn’t really talk to a lot of his friends. Now lately I can barely even get him to call me. I’ve tried to talk to some of our mutual friends about it and even tried talking to him about it. However, it’s not doing much good. It seems like he’s giving up on everything on us on himself his friends… I hate seeing him like this it breaks my heart. I know one of the main things is money and how badly he physically misses our cuddle and movie nights. I’m fighting hard for us and I’m trying to get him better help so he can do the same. I’ve had friends of ours say maybe it’s not worth it. He’s been with me through a lot already and I don’t wanna give up on him. So AITA ??