How to discuss decreasing harm mitigation with my therapist?
I have suspected OCPD or at least exhibit some traits, and my therapist and I are just beginning to delve into that without searching for an official diagnosis, just seeing if treating this suspicion could help me.
That said, I feel at an impasse with them at the moment. They're suggesting our work focus on identifying the things I truly need to put my focus into and work to solve/mitigate, and then letting the others slide. I suggested it's unrealistic to know which things will be important to focus on until they've already occurred. Therefore, if we go down this route and start to minimize my ability to predict and address problems, I will be inviting more suffering into my life.
I do think that is probably the correct path forward as the amount of "mitigation" I'm doing at the moment is unsustainable, but I'm having trouble coping with the idea that I will just be inviting more suffering into my life. It seems rational to expect my life to be worse if I prevent fewer problems.
My therapist does not agree with me and won't really give me a satisfactory answer to this, but I also feel like perhaps either I'm not articulating it correctly or they are not fully grasping what I'm saying.
Has anyone dealt with this before? What were some ways you were able to navigate this discussion and move forward? I would like to but I also feel like if this basic idea can't be acknowledged then we'd be on two completely different pages. But of course, that could just be my personality warping the truth before it hits my mind.
Thanks in advance for any responses/links, and sorry if any terminology I used was incorrect. I am very new to exploring OCPD.