Advice Needed
My nesting partner, Maple (33m), and I (34f) have been together for a year now. I’ve been doing polyamory for 4 years and him only since we started dating. Even though I’ve been in it for 4 years, I’m still quite inexperienced so I’m looking for some advice.
In the year we’ve been together I am the only one who has had other partners during this time, though he does talk to women he’s interested in. He just hasn’t gone on any dates or anything. Compared to me, he has a pretty low libido. I could be intimate daily whereas he maxes out at 3 times a week. I know I’ll be jealous when I go from seeing him daily to losing time to another person, but I’ll manage. I plan on spending that free time working on myself or being with friends. What I’m worried about is how to handle a loss in intimacy.
I brought it up with him recently, letting him know I’d rather us start talking and working on it now vs waiting until it happens and it becomes a problem. We’ve had good conversations about this and he agrees with me. The problem is idk what we can do to help me with the jealousy that will come when this happens. He does acknowledge it could happen, and it’s a valid concern.
What have you done with partners who are less active than you sexually when your intimacy drops as a new partner gets added and they get some of that intimacy instead?