u/Free-Marsupial-9686

So I've been NC now nearly 5-6 years and will be honest about how my mum/parents have been towards me and my childhood/teenage and adult life... Obviously most of it isn't nice stuff but I also am very defensive and won't allow other people to say anything negative about them.

Now I've been thinking these last couple of days, do they defend me? And if we're being realistic i don't think they would.... So why do I?

I feel a bit in limbo, I don't want to naive but at the same time there is something in me that just won't allow anyone to say a bad word against them. I was as the same when it came to my abusive/narcissistic ex. I always defend. But why and it healthy and is it stopping me from truly healing and moving on?

Side note when I had trauma therapy last year I even got mad at my therapist for talking down about my parents.... I mean he didn't say anything untrue and he just was stating facts...I still don't truly understand why I defend them still.

I know many of us here are from all walks off life and places in the world. But I was wondering if there were others like myself who come from South Asian/ Pakistani backgrounds? I wanted to ask if you were still in contact with your extended family and if so how you navigated the contact with them while NC with parents?