I 36F have been with my fiancé 33M for 5 years now and we have two kids together a 3 year old and a 6 month old and with father's day fast approaching i need some advice.

My fiance albeit lovely, is not the best with special occasions.. he has forgotten my birthday, I'd say 3 of the 5 years we have been together ( this year hasn't happened yet so we shall see), Christmas is usually gifts thrown together last minute of items I have to physically send him that I want and even then most times he forgets what is on said asked for list and just goes rogue and gets stuff I literally will never use or stuff that is for me but also him, even our engagement was on our anniversary which I planned ( 2 months postpartum) and he just kind of cleared his throat from behind me while I was walking and just said will you while holding a ring box open, no one knee, no planning.. nothing.

I on the other hand am a BIG acts of service and gift giving person, I try to make every gift/big event for him something special I make sure I mentally take notes during conversations about what he wants or needs and always try to go above and beyond to make sure he feels special and gets things he wants. Now I know that just because I am like this doesn't automatically mean he has to be, this isn't a who can do bigger and better situation but I'm starting to get worn out feeling like I'm the only one who puts any effort into this and should I even bother?

So long story short my question is, this father's day, do I give the same energy I get and just last minute make him plan his own day and what we do while doing the bare minimum ( or less tbh) like he does for me or do I continue to do what I've always done and give more than I get?

I don't want to be petty but I'm just tired of feeling forgotten about when I try so hard to make him feel heard and special and every year I just get no effort. Also yes I have voiced this to him, even mother's day this year I flat out told him I don't want to have to plan a day thats supposed to be for me which ended in no planning on his part and he last minute took me to the movies to see a movie that was more for him and then fell asleep while we were there.