u/FreeziesRgood

I am a young adult in my mid twenties, I am blessed with a great career I love. A partner and Daughter whom are both healthy and I love dearly.

The issue comes down to my Mother, and maybe my inability to be assertive.

My whole life she has bullied me, been cold, and even physical at times. She accused me when I was in elementary school of trying to steal my dad and blamed their divorce on me. She moved us 3 hours in the night and forbid me from talking to him or speaking about him again. When I stood my ground as a kid when she wanted to put our two cats down - she packed all my things in trash bags and put them and the cats in the carrier on the lawn when I got home from school.

(For anyone worried about the cats, a friend re homed one and then I volunteered at the local animal shelter in exchange of them taking in my other cat)

We were no contact throughout highschool. I moved in with a female friend and her mom who ended up getting guardianship until I was 18.

Fast forward to the modern day issues, my mom had always blamed my dad for all her problems ( not exaggerating, the power flickers - it was my dad. She doesn’t get promoted - that’s my dad’s fault too.)

She sends me around 20-100 text messages a day sometimes with conspiracy theories about her life being in danger because my dad and the police are “after her”. She makes up fake stories and absolutely TWEAKS over the randomest stuff.

I ignore the messages and tweaking. My grandma has begged me to do something ,to call someone , but our doctor said unless she elects to go in on her own there is nothing to be done.

As more time passes her mental health gets messier and messier, now she can no longer hold a job, has no friends etc. she has punched holes in her walls and put cameras in them. She thinks the police have bugged her home.

At this point I don’t even know what the options are. She did treat me horribly but if I were to ban her from my life, would that make me any different than her?