My oral needs are super specific and I don’t know how to communicate
How do I tell a new lover how to pleasure me orally? I know exactly what I want and it’s pretty detailed, but I have tried to communicate this to others and haven’t been successful.
Fair warning: This is going to get explicit. I am looking for a way to get this message across without sounding like a Powerpoint presentation from the Academy of Cliteracy.
There’s a lot to it. 4 stages. I want to communicate it in a way that won’t overwhelm him.
Stage 1- teasing and gentle strokes. Gently licking my inner thighs and outer labia. Don’t touch the clit at all. 5-8 minutes.
Stage 2- feather light touch on the clit, occasionally. Make it a surprise Still spend most of the time on the light teasing.
Stage 3- gentle stimulation focused on the clit. A “flick” motion. Keep it light.
Stage 4 turn up the intensity BASED ON WHAT I SAY. Now is the time for sucking action.
He’s been smushing his face against my lady parts like am eager Labrador retriever. This turns me right off. When my clit gets stimulated and I am not aroused enough yet, it completely shuts down. At this point I won’t get any pleasure out of it at all.
How do I say this without being too academic and overwhelming? Or putting him on the defensive?
Would love to hear from anyone who has a pussy OR licks one!
Thank you.