Okay, so I’ve been dating this guy for around two years. At the beginning I really, really liked him. About half a year into the relationship, he broke up with me, and I went kind of frantic trying to get us back together. I sent him long paragraphs and honestly didn’t think things through properly.
The way he treated me during that breakup really affected me emotionally, even though we eventually got back together a few months later. After we got back together, his effort and interest in the relationship increased a lot, but mine slowly started to decrease.
I didn’t do it on purpose, but over time I started caring less and less. I don’t feel as excited to talk to him anymore, and I don’t care about anniversaries or romantic things the way I used to. It feels like something changed in me after the breakup and I can’t get those feelings back fully.
I still care about him a lot as a person, and he’s genuinely amazing. He’s been there for me through a lot, which is why I feel terrible. I don’t want to lead him on if I don’t feel the same level of affection that he feels for me. At the same time, I don’t want to hurt him because he honestly deserves someone who can give him the same energy back.
I recently asked if we could take a break for a month because I’m confused about my feelings and don’t know what to do. I’m scared that if this keeps going, things will only get worse.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? How do you figure out whether your feelings are gone permanently or if you’re just emotionally disconnected after being hurt before?