u/Frequent-Two-9625

We’ve been married for a decade but my stepson (22) has always been cold to me. I’ve wondered if he connected me with his parents’ split, but they were divorced for a year before I even met his father. I believe I have a strong relationship with his younger siblings. I usually go to all their events even when stepson is typically rude and not appreciative. I clap, I cheer, I volunteer, I donate, I show up and smile. I’m just really tired and feel like I give so much for not even basic acknowledgment. This Mother’s Day, he’ll have a supporting role in an end of semester play at his college. TBH, I don’t want to go. This isn’t how I want to spend Mother’s Day. I don’t want to make my husband pick between me or his son. For those that will write “it’s just an hour”, I’ve had years of “just an hour”…. I just can’t do it anymore. My husband and I rarely argue, but when we do - it’s about his son. Am I the asshole if I don’t go?