Friends leaving the moment they get a partner.
I really wish this wasn't a pattern, but it is and I'm sick of it. Maybe it's because I don't date, so I don't get it, but when I was dating someone, I never thought even for a moment "I should stop talking to my friends".
I understand that their partner is more important than me now, but god, I think friendships should matter at least a little? This has happened in the past but recently my friend god into a relationship, she's known me since middle school, known him for less than a year, and I'm still less than. Plans have been cancelled and interrupted and ignored if he calls or asks to hang out that day, even if we've already planned/started doing stuff.
Are partners really so important that one of your supposed best friends should take a back burner? I wouldn't even care that they're hanging out a ton, I'm not a jealous man, however its the fact that plans we've made get pushed aside for him. At this point I feel so exhausted from friendships that I don't see the point in seaking out new ones, the moment they get in a relationship it's as if years of friendship no longer matter.
I don't need to be the most important person in someones life, but I'd like to feel like I matter at least a little bit, y'know? Maybe I need to just befriend some more aromantic people, the three friends I have who are don't ever do this bullshit.