u/FrequentAd4823

i kind of feel alone in this as i have never really spoken to anyone else with bpd to find out if this is universal. whatever i am feeling in the moment, i feel like that is wha my partner is feeling only because whenever he is feeling something i switch really fast and feel what he is feeling. ie., if he is upset i become upset or whenever he is quiet and short i become quiet and short because i feel like he just wants that to be the vibes of the night. but my things are major like i feel like he doesn’t love me so clearly he is thinking he doesn’t love me too. or i think lowly of myself in a situation then obviously he is thinking lowly of me too. i just do not know how to be loved so i know that it is internal but it starts to make my bones hurt and my stomach ache “knowing” that he thinks the same things i thing. i don’t know i need a healthy way to go about this because he is incredibly understanding and loving i just turn it into something bad and start to believe it