AITA for not including my DIL in my Mother’s Day lunch
I have 3 kids Ryan, Emma, and Joseph. Joseph lives 10 minutes from me while Ryan and Emma are out of state. All of my kids parents. Joseph has 3 kids and Ryan and Emma have 2.
All of my kids grew up on seafood. It’s my favorite type of food and they all love it. For Mother’s Day, I decided to host a lunch at a nice seafood restaurant on the water. I even arranged for everyone to take a ferry to and from the restaurant.
The problem is Joseph’s wife has an airborne seafood allergy and their baby is mildly allergic. I invited Joseph and their older two kids and I suggested that his wife, their baby, her other child, and her mother have their own lunch at a nearby restaurant and we could maybe meet up later
Joseph ended up bringing all three kids to my house this morning but said that they weren’t able to join us for lunch. I asked why and he said that he wanted the kids to be with their mom on Mother’s Day and that he couldn’t leave her with all of them since she was still recovering from a recent surgery and illness.
When I told Ryan and Emma that Joseph and his kids wouldn’t be joining us, they said that they never expected him to come because I chose a seafood restaurant when his wife and child are allergic and that if I had wanted him to come, I would’ve chosen an allergy friendly restaurant close to their house.
I told them that Joseph could’ve still gone with his other two kids because I am still his mother and didn’t think to tell me until today that they weren’t coming but they still think that I’m being ridiculous.