How do I [M22] get through/tell my BF [M24] that I want to spend more time with him?
Warning: this is a rant so this might not make sense sorry.
Context I’m in college working on my bachelor that’s 5hrs away from my hometown. Me and my BF have to been together for 6 years (4 years of it has been long distance. )
The reason I’m asking this is because I’m home for the summer and have only seen him 5 times in the span of 5 ish weeks (about once a week). The reason this bothers me is because last break (winter break) I saw him basically everyday because he has his own apartment (which he still has). The only thing that has changed with his living situation is that he got roommates (idk who they are ) to help pay the rent.
At first i didn’t mind it because he quit his abusive job a few months ago and he wanted to save money (understandable considering the economy) and i could come stay over there and meet his roommates once he got a stable job for a week. Well it’s been three weeks since he got a new job and I’ve still not been over there.
I’ve asked (and bitched ) about it and he just brushes it off.
It’s just weird to me because the whole time I’m in college and we text he’ll have breakdowns about how he misses me and wishes I was there, but when I am back home he doesn’t bother to see me unless I throw a fit.
I feel like I’m giving too much leeway/just being push over with this situation, but I also feel like I’m being a dick and just over analyzing and thinking over this.
TLDR
I’ve been in a 6-year relationship, with the last 4 years being long-distance while I attend college 5 hours away. During winter break, I saw my boyfriend almost every day at his apartment, but this summer I’ve only seen him about once a week. He got roommates and said I could come over once he found a stable job, but it’s been weeks since he started a new job and he still hasn’t invited me over or introduced me to them. He constantly says he misses me when I’m away, but doesn’t make much effort to see me when I’m actually home, and I’m wondering if I’m being too lenient or just overthinking the situation.