u/Frequent_Gain5744

My mom is in her mid 70s and lives alone in California and last month she had a health scare that landed her in the hospital for almost two weeks and while she's home now and recovering well it shook us all up pretty badly. What hit me hardest wasn't even the health side of it but sitting in that hospital room at some point during those two weeks and realizing I had absolutely no idea what she had in place legally if things had gone differently and it's been sitting with me ever since. She owns her home, has some savings and I asked her about it while she was in the hospital and she admitted she has nothing in place, no will, no trust, nothing and every time we've tried to bring it up over the years she waves it off and changes the subject like it's someone else's problem. At minimum she needs a will and a revocable trust given she owns property in California but I can't even get her to the table to talk about it. Now that she's home and stable I want to finally get this sorted but I don't even know where to start or how to bring it up without her feeling like I'm treating her like she's already gone because I know she's going to push back and I just need to figure out how to make this feel less like planning for the end and more like taking care of each other.