My marriage may be in terminal velocity
What’s up guys. I’ve been married since 2018. We’ve had our ups and downs over the years. Like everybody but, I had always thought there was real love there and it was just part of growing.
I’ve just started a new position in finance. This is an industry pivot imposed on me when I was fired last November. That wasn’t the easiest time for us. I was able to draw unemployment and with her income, we kept afloat. Barely. Anyway, new job, money back in, all good.
I’ve been studying for the SIE. A securities exam. I tend to work until 8 pm and study into the early morning. My exam is coming up and as such I e been bitting the books until 1-2am nightly for the last few weeks. So, to not wake her up, I sleep in the couch.
Last night, during a break. I was looking at spa packages for her for our fall trip to Istanbul (what a difference a year makes lol). She walks into my office and I put my phone down on my chest.
She basically takes that as a sign I’m cheating on her. We argue until 3am.
She points out that I password’s my phone (required for work), hid my phone, and we haven’t had sex in a while as her evidence. Oh And I lied about still using nicotine once out of shame.
Now, lads. I’ve swallowed a lot of shit in my life. This was too much. I’ve given up approaching her for sex because I’m always turned down. She caught me taking care of that biological issue twice since we’ve been married.
She gives a qualified apology. “Well if I was wrong I’m sorry but” for accusing me of cheating.
Btw I was cheated on by my first two gf’s so, it’s a hard line, hot button issue for me.
TLDR: thought I had a good but sexless marriage.
Found out my wife thinks I’ve been cheating because I stay up late to study for an exam that would get me promoted. We haven’t had in over six months and she uses that as evidence despite shooting me down constantly.
At this point, divorce sounds pretty good.
Post script: apologies if this doesn’t fit in this sub or with the flair. I needed a place to vent.