So basically, there is this girl (22F) I (23M) met this January at a uni house party. She added me on insta after trying to wingman me with a girl at the party (she added me by finding my gram on her following list) and we started talking (platonically) and we would go to society events, go to some parties together with her friends and I would smoke at hers and vice versa and we would order food after and watch a show.
Now, I never liked her at this point in time but we give each other food from home when we went back as a ‘cultural exchange’ (I’m Nigerian and she’s Somali but we are both British born) and she would tell me annoying things about her hinge dates or guys she’s talking to and I would ask her for advice on girls I was talking to.
There was a time when she invited me to a group smoking session that her and her other friend who’s a girl were going too (she said she didn’t want to go alone to an accommodation (British version of American college dorms) with potentially a bunch of guys in it) and the guy that invited her (who liked her) asked her if we were dating (I know this because she told me). She also told a different guy at a party who asked her why she didn’t try dating me because I’m good looking and she said “he’s good looking but we are just friends”. Maybe she said this because we were drunk idk. She would also compliment me whenever I took down my dreadlocks from a style (they get curly) and would notice whenever I get a lineup and compliment me on that too.
Around two weeks ago I’ve been feeling a shift in energy because I’ve been telling her to delete hinge for a while (I believe dating apps are useless and you can meet people in uni which has a higher success rate), and recently she posted on her close friends that she did. She likes all my stories and we talk everyday. Around this time two weeks ago I went to the gym at like 2am because I was in the dumps because of some family issues back home.
I posted a video of me doing pull ups and a picture of my physique on my close friends (I do calisthenics and have decent muscle mass and abs). She liked both those posts a few minutes after I posted them and I told her that I went to the gym to clear my head. She asked me if I have something on my mind and I told her some of what happened and she opened up to me about some of what she has been dealing with.
After this when we would meet up at mine instead of her chilling in my living room I asked her to chill in my room because my roommate had people over which she said she didn’t mind. We ended up on my bed and did what we would normally do (she also brought her laundry to do at mine but at her place she has to pay to do hers). The next time I went to hers she made us food and a fruit salad and when I went to sit on her chair she asked me if I want to sit on her bed with her because I let her sit on mine. I asked her if we could share her blanket she said yeah.
I ended up hugging her on her bed like twice because I was really grateful for the food she made and when she brought up guys she was very vague this time (it was only to clown lame DMS they sent) and she apologised for bringing up a guy she talked too that I knew of. She then asked me if I wanted to do shrooms with her this Saturday in her room and to smoke after which I agreed too. She told me she brought a mushroom t shirt and wants to get nice lights so the trip would be nicer and told me that whatever I have on my mind when I take them, I should just speak my mind because shrooms will make you realise things you’ve been hiding subconsciously.
I was very confused on why she was acting like this so I spoke to some of my female friends from back home and my older sister and they told me that she probably likes me and/or she likes spending a lot of time with me and that we also have moved very fast for ‘friends’ that have known each other for only about 4 months. I also asked her to come watch a movie with me next week and she said yes (I also asked her if she wanted to do something after and she said we can get food).
I never really thought of her as more than a friend but I have been thinking of the things she did for me lately and just her as a person and I started catching feelings, do you guys think I should try make a move on Saturday? My friends and sister made me feel like I’ve been clueless this whole time.
TL;DR: Caught feelings for a platonic friend, is she sending signals or am I overthinking?