u/Frequent_Pie_6024

I am 34 years old (F) and 9 weeks pregnant. Honestly, my hormones are all over the place. I’m in a situation where I don’t know what I want. I’m married, but we were thinking about getting divorced before we found out I was pregnant. I wasn’t planning to get pregnant, but it happened. I thought I was infertile (more than two years without using protection), and then suddenly it happened.

I don’t have a job (my partner does, but it’s not enough). We’re thinking about moving to another country, we have debts and very little savings. I don’t have any family who could help me if I have the baby.

He wants us to keep it (abortion doesn’t even cross his mind), and I’m scared to bring it up because he’s against abortion. I only have 2 days to make an appointment and go through with it in secret. I think it’s the best option, but I feel like a bad person—both because of the baby and because I would be lying (saying it was a miscarriage).

What should I do? I need help. I don’t know what would happen to my marriage either. In a few weeks, I think I’ll get divorced—I don’t think I could live with that lie. I know it’s my decision, but I need advice, please.

Hello. I am a 33 (F), 8 weeks pregnant, and considering an abortion. This would be my first abortion, and I am very scared because it could be emotionally traumatic for me, as I also want this baby.

The father is already making my life very difficult before the baby is even born. We are struggling financially, but instead of supporting me, he pressures me to find work while pregnant, even though pregnant women are rarely hired where I live.

I suggested going back to my home country (he gave me that idea before btw) to stay with my family, but he started manipulating me and saying I always depend on others even though he is my husband and knows our financial situation.

I would like to keep the baby, but I am afraid that after the child is born, he will recognize the baby as the father and continue making my life difficult through control and manipulation. He is already treating me badly during the pregnancy, calling me names, mocking me,I am also considering divorce but the process would take around six months to be finalized, possibly before the baby is born if there are no complications, but I am scared of bringing a child into this situation i don’t know what to do.