u/Fresh-Cap-1607

Na parents educated eh, but very orthodox. Naaku valla lifestyle, valla thought process asala nachevi kaavu. So, na life decisions nene tesukodam start chesa...ante...like junior college, graduation, everything. I realized very early that life manaki kavalasinaattu undali ante, financial independence okkate lonely way out ani.

Nenu emi topper kaadu, but baaga kashtapaddanu. Very early ga odd jobs, tuitions cheskuntoo, 19 ke full-time job start chesa. In fact, 18 years ke oka small room loki move aipoya, akkade tuitions kuda chepthu independent ga unna. Ippudu venakki tirigi chuste, I feel incredibly proud of how I handled my youth.

Once I got out of the house, I never had to bother about family em antunnaru, parents em antunnaru etc. Because I was focusing on something more important - living my own life. Toxicity of the world around you will stop bothering you.

But Reddit lo chala mandi eppudoo toxic parents gurinchi complain cheyyadam chustunta. My question is: Why do you tolerate it?

Baitaki vachesi, mee own legs meeda ninchodaniki mimmalni em aputondi?

• Ee rojullo cost of living nijangane itla dharunanga perigipoyinda, that an 18-year-old genuinely can't survive independently?
• Leda, entha toxicity unna, parents icche comfort zone and safety net ni vadulovadam ishtam leka aagipotunnara?
• Independent life means taking responsibility of yourself ani teliyaka naa?

Genuinely curious to hear your perspectives. Meeremantaru?

EDIT 1: It would be wrong if I did not mention it. My elder sister got a job after her graduation, when she was 21 and moved out of the house first. She kinda set a standard for me to follow a few years later.

Thanu naa social media post ki reply ichindi.

Memu iddaram different places, different backgrounds, inka rendu different continents ki chendina vallamu. Except that we both could write in Telugu, ma madhya common ga emi ledu.

Memu matladukuntuu unnamu, and gradually, memu iddaram destined to be great friends ani realization vachindi.

Maaku ey topics meeda restrictions levu. Memu iddaram chala philosophical. Maa lives lo memu iddaram tough situations face chestunnamu. Maaku emi jarigina, we just stayed together through it all.

It is going to be three years now, time asalu ela gadichipoindo teliyadu!

Ninna, nenu thanaki midnight call chesanu (it was midnight for her). Nenu river side nadustunnanu, so natho matladuthu thodu ga undamani adiganu.

We talked about a lot of things, tharuvatha nenu oka bench meeda kurchuni... river ni choosthu undipoyaa.

I asked her, "Should we meet?" ani.

Thana ventane "Vaddule" andi. "Mana friendship manam kalavadam valana maripothundemo? Ippudu ilaaga manchigaa unnam kadaa, risk teeskovadam avasaramaa?" ani adigindi.

Thanu silently malli nidraloki jarupukuntunnappudu, nenu thana kosam oka pata paaduthoo akkade undipoyaa chalasepu.