how most women from lower socio-economic background live their entire lives in stockholm syndrome?
tldr : my cook is victim of age old drunkard abusive husband but her answer as to why she wont leave is shocker ! truly !
Long incident but absolute banger is at end of body
I have a cook / cleaning didi who comes to house since I was 10 and she was 20. She was married off at 18 and she has been like my second mother since my child hood. She is now 30 and I am 20 and she still works at my place.
Same age old story of drunkard husband only earns for drinks two daughters.
Her husband regularly sends her to the local clinic every 6-8 months with bruises and what not when she makes a fuss for very "small problems"
such as marital rape/0 contribution in rent and household expenses/complaints about so much drinking he sometimes falls in gutter and doesnt even wake up!
the audacity to complain!
I have grown tired of asking her to divorce and get him locked up my mother has also tried convincing her and telling her she will support her. She has never said no, never said yes either, always silent.
a week ago he was slapping her while drunk and youngest daughter ( age 9 ) called the police.
They came and slapped him around and warned him. He thought didi had called them.
he split open her skull with punches.
me and my mother took her to the hospital and since my mother works I spent days and nights in the hospital next to her and talking to the doctors.
the doctors asked her how it happened.
she said she fell down the stairs.
The doctor rolled his eyes and walked away. he knew. it was so obvious what happened but he was just so tired of the same story every time
The nurse while bandaging her told her ( I was sitting nearby peeling an apple ). That "yeh kabhi nahi sudhrega, yahi zindagi rahegi hamesha. abhi bhi time hai sach bolde "
She still stayed silent
She was discharged today. I seriously pressured her on why she refuses to get him locked up and leave
She told me her reason.
Wait for it.
She said she does not want her daughters to grow up thinking it is acceptable to break a marriage apart, no matter how bad it is.
She said (in hindi), this is her draw in life, i got bad luck but my daughters might get good luck with good husband but they should not grow up with the mindset that
it is okay to leave your husband
then their marriage absolutely wont last
... No amount of laws will help these woman who are under stockholm syndrome/ are conditioning their daughters to be under stockholm syndrome.
What is the solution? I cant seem to think of any