My roommate won’t stop bringing strange men over
This requires some backstory. I will try to keep this story as anonymous as possible because it is hyper specific. I’m a girl in my early 20s, and I have 3 roommates also in their early 20s. While in university, I have been living in this apartment complex and my third roommate, I’ll call her Jane, has consistently been having really loud sex. I, and my other roommates, have repeatedly told Jane to keep it down. This wasn’t just a small issue, she would have sex so loud and often I would quite literally be woken up by it and unable to sleep. 3am, 8am, 4pm, 10pm, there was no peace. I’m a private person and I understand everyone has different lifestyles, but it just really makes me uncomfortable. I’m not being a prude, when I say loud I mean she would be screaming. I have never heard any of my roommates hookups so I know it isn’t just a matter of thin walls. No matter how much I’d ask for her to be more mindful things would either stay the same or worsen.
Now that wasn’t even the problem. For the past couple months Jane has not been here. However, recently she has returned and the problem has gotten much much worse. I don’t want to get too specific but she had a lot happen and it’s made a lot of her behavior make more sense to me, but she’s gotten a lot more reckless. She has been leaving our doors unlocked and coming and going with random people at random hours in the night. We have no way of knowing she’s left with all our doors unlocked because we are sleeping. She’s been bringing multiple men a day to our place and having extremely loud sex once again, and I have confronted her on it to no improvement. I also found out she is attracted to me and has been trying to flirt with me the whole time she’s been living here. I just feel very uncomfortable and on edge. It’s made me wonder if me hearing her this whole time has been some sort of kink that I have not consented to being a part of. Also I found out she has had a stalker and that has just furthered my anxiety about the doors remaining unlocked and me and my roommates safety. I genuinely don’t know what to even do about this situation other than communicating with her, which I have done, but I doubt will go anywhere based off of previous interactions. I don’t even know what advice anyone could give but if you got any please let me know, I am worried about this on many different levels.