u/Fresh_Maize2334

Hello! I'll try to make this quick, but I met this guy in February while volunteering at a uni event. We were both part of this volunteering program for a few months, and have spoken (primarily over text on a work platform lol) about it, and similar things (ie. wanting to do good, create opportunities for disadvantaged people, etc.) within the context of uni, other programs at uni, later jobs, our values, and personal experiences. We'd have long, thoughtful discussions and I really enjoyed talking with him.

We both also follow the same religion, which is really important to me, and so far seem to share a lot of values. Not to mention, everyone I know has really good things to say about him. Ie. I am really interested in him and want to get to know him better, however I don't know how to tell him this/ nor if I SHOULD.

Due to our schedules, it's unlikely that I'll see him again before graduation (at which point it's unlikely I'll see him again, at least for a long time). The only place we've spoken/contacted each other is on this work-app, so it feels wrong to confess to him there/ or explicitly initiate my interest.

I don't know what I should do in order to make it possible to confess!

Some parameters for this:

1. I don't feel comfortable asking him when he'll be on campus next term for us to meet 1:1/ coffee, etc. as I haven't yet told my family I'm interested in him (which I would do if we spoke and shared mutual interest).

2. I also don't know how to sus for his phone number or social media as we are talking on a work platform!! And I'd want him to know I want his number/socials TO get to know him better, because I am romantically interested.

Ie. I think my best bet is to talk to him on this work platform, but I don't know how to do so without it seeming weird!! Especially as we haven't known each other for long (3 months), and it's unlikely I'll see him randomly again to get to know him better.

This being said, I'd really like some help. I've brainstormed a couple ways to initiate a conversation leading into my asking for his insta/number, I just need to think about how I'll tell him I'm romantically interested. Hence why I am here, because I could use some help!!

Thanks in advance!! I'd really love some suggestions, words of advice, anything :))

Hi all, I'll try to make this quick!

I'm currently a student in the penultimate year of my secondary education degree. I really love working with children, and I've worked and volunteered a lot with children and young people experiencing disadvantage over the past few years. Ie. this is something I'd like to continue doing as a teacher, and is the main reason I chose to pursue this profession in the first place.

I've been working at a school as an SLSO for ~7 months now, and I love the work and working with the kids (for the most part). Staff are really great, my boss is great and the teacher-culture as a whole is great. Exec isn't. Turn over is really high, some of the staff that are teaching are on 12-14 classes, and I know my school is desperate for more teachers (incl. myself when I do graduate) with some of the culture leading into (IMO) pseudo-exploitation.

Furthermore, it's mostly beginner teachers here, with very few experienced teachers , and the workload is insane, particularly when considering it's a lot of teachers' first year teaching (I have many friends who are these). A lot of whom are leaving or have already left education. A lot of the student behaviours are just terrible, too, and a lot of kids are operating far below grade level (ie. they need extensive support, but can't necessarily receive it due to the aforementioned factors).

However, this school is comparatively great compared to (it seems) a majority of schools in this (low SES) LGA and those surrounding it. Not to mention, from friends working at these neighbouring schools / people who've been placed there, they seem similarly in the shits.

I decided to pursue education TO support these schools, but now it seems like the only way to teach and not quit within a couple years is to go independent/ aim for 'better' schools. It sucks and I just feel really stuck. I don't know if I want to continue pursuing education, and if I should look at pivoting towards higher education instead (which I do have a pre-existing interest in, although with tech and attention spans, I'm sure they'll only get worse), or out of edu altogether (I've been considering law for a while).

SO, my questions.

1. For any teachers who are working in more-so 'behavioural' schools, how do you manage? Particularly if exec enables these poor behaviours.

2. How do you deal with the potential exploitation?

3. What makes you want to continue pursuing education? And/or how did you find a GOOD school to be content at?

4. If you did leave education (or at least teaching), where did you end up going? How has that been for you?

5. If you switched to law, what area of law are you now in, and do you find that it meets the desires which led you to education? (e.g. doing good, supporting disadvantage, etc.) How do you feel about this decision?