u/Fresh_Mountain5243

Hate to say it, but don’t care who it offends.

So so SO much discourse on women hating “good men” who are “so nice and good hearted” and they just end up liking and choosing the guy who treats them like shit.

Nobody on God’s green earth LIKES being treated like shit. They run to that guy because he actually had a personality, sense of humor and identity outside of being “nice”. That’s how he hooked her to begin with.

In the beginning he was chill, had charisma and made her laugh. Then he switched up. Very common move males make when they’re playing the field or just want someone to obsess over them. (You can’t pull this off if she wasn’t interested in you to begin with though)

Then men with no hobbies, interests, style, personality, charisma, can’t hold a conversation, not fun to be around, or anything even remotely interesting besides having an overly weak and desperate aura come around talking about “Nice guys finish last!!!!! Every girl likes players!!!”

Bro, she likes nice guys. If she didn’t, she wouldn’t be waiting for the “bad boy” to be nice again.

But nobody is going to happily date someone whose entire life revolves around being “nice”. Being nice is the bare fucking minimum for anyone you meet.

These men will have NOTHING even remotely interesting or attractive about them, be awkward as fuck, can’t dress, don’t know how to turn a girl on, can’t make a girl laugh, no depth, no friends or life outside of “mE gOoD pErSoN” and that’s it. Women want a nice guy, but that doesn’t mean she wants a pushover, a weakling, a buzzkill, a dude with no backbone who makes her feel like she has to mold and teach him how to be a man or even a person at that point. It takes more than that. Being nice is required even for a platonic friend or acquaintance.

These “nice guys” are human twinkie’s. Fix it and grow up.

Every time someone comes on this app looking for advice on their relationship and the problem in question is “I’m not attracted to them”, “They have trauma I don’t want to deal with” or “They have too many bodies” (these are just examples) etc, everyone in the comments always says the same thing “Break up with them but don’t tell them why, just lie” and their partner has no other flaw and is a good partner. Like….I get we’re trying to spare feelings because these types of reasons can be hurtful especially when it comes to appearances or trauma or a past you can’t control or whatever else it is that is unfixable etc. But do you know how humiliating it is to know you’re doing everything right and the person that’s leaving you is just like “it’s not you, it’s me”? Like obviously it’s not them, and it’s something to do with you; and I think any normal person would deserve to know the truth regardless of how hurtful it is just in case they change their mind and try to spin the block, or even just to simply not look dumb and be left in the dark.

But instead, everyone says “No that’ll make them insecure and hurt their feelings”. Like…maybe I’m the mean one here, but I don’t care. Hurt their feelings….Everyone deserves honesty even if it hurts them or embarrasses them. I would want someone to be too honest with me if they were dumping me, it’ll make it easier to hate you and get over it in my opinion.