I’ve been struggling with how I feel because no one understands what I’ve gone through. Is there somewhere where women can sit down and speak about their experiences and support one another?
Also thanks r/askto for deleting my post
We’ve all heard before men and even women calling other women “females”. I was just watching a show where this happened multiple times.
I’ve explained to my boyfriend multiple times why I personally don’t like it, but he consistently argues back with me that it’s normal and fine. He uses the fact that even women say it as evidence that it’s fine.
My reasoning for disliking it is that it is dehumanizing. Female feels like a word that is for the most part used as an adjective, for example “a female firefighter”, “a female doctor”, “a female dog”, “a female duck.” Referring to a woman solely as a female is like … a female what? A female human? Well, we have a word for that, and it’s woman. That is why to me it is essentially removing the human aspect.
This terminology may not offend every woman and I’m not saying it has to, but it does bother some women. My point was if I’ve explained that some women could be bothered by this (specifically me who he’s speaking to) and why, why continue saying it when you could just not? I also felt it was not his place to dictate how all women including myself should respond to this just because he believes most of them are fine with it.
I wanted to know how you all feel about this. Do you think I’m overreacting about this? Do you see where I’m coming from? Does it bother you?