uski feelings change ho gayi mere liye...
Pata Hai Aaj Kya Hua...
I was in a relationship for 4 years. In the last few months, she became very busy with studies and work. She stopped responding properly and stopped giving me time. I ignored it because I thought exams and career pressure must be the reason.
But recently, I asked her directly, “Why don’t you love me like before?”
After a lot of questions and conversations, she finally said:
>“I don’t feel the same way anymore like I used to earlier.”
That completely broke me.
The worst part is — everything seemed fine from my side. We never used to fight much, we understood each other well, and I genuinely thought she was the girl I would marry someday. She was my first love, and these 4 years meant everything to me.
Some background about me:
- I completed B.Tech
- Working as a software engineer
- Earning well
- I even bought gold for her birthday gift (haven’t given it yet)
- I was planning my future seriously with her
- I was ready to tell my parents soon
When she said her feelings changed, I was literally crying in my office. I kept trying to explain that maybe this is normal in long-term relationships — after stability, the excitement changes but love still exists.
But deep down, I realized she probably doesn’t see a future with me anymore.
I finally decided to break up because I never wanted a relationship just for timepass. I wanted marriage, loyalty, and a life together. She herself was confused whether she still loved me or not.
We haven’t talked properly for the last 4 days.
Today, I texted her asking:
>“Did you miss me?”
And her reply was:
>“I thought I would feel broken and unable to live without you… but I just felt bad, nothing else.”
That shattered me again.
I just replied:
>“Bye, take care… and I love you.”
Now I feel completely lost. I can’t focus on work. Haven’t written a single line of code in 4 days. Every memory keeps replaying in my head — our conversations, plans, dreams, everything.
I don’t even have female friends or much interaction with girls because I was fully loyal and invested in this relationship. Now I’m scared about my future too.
Right now, I genuinely feel like I’ll never be able to love or marry anyone again the way I loved her.
I don’t even know what to do anymore.