u/Friendly-Beguin

I’m turning to the internet because I’m either embarrassed to ask my irl friends or they do not get what a QPR is. My friend and I decided to be in a queerplatonic relationship over a year ago. I am grey-aroace, and I do not know their sexuality but they’ve mentioned being on the ace spectrum. We talked about boundaries, etc, when we first agreed to be in a QPR. This was while we were long-distance, and I moved to their city (it just sort of worked out) a few months later. We didn’t talk about our relationship or boundaries when we went to being in person, and still haven’t spoken again about it. Over the last few months, though, it feels like something about our relationship is a little different? It’s hard to tell, I have autism and I can be kind of oblivious/unaware of others and myself. Things I have definitely noticed: more frequent touch (though we were very touchy before, but it’s dialed up), different touch (like sometimes they kiss my shoulder, we are closer and more tangled up when we cuddle, etc), more affectionate language. Like, something is happening, I think, but I do not know what it is. It’s not that I mind the changes, it’s just a little disconcerting because I thought I knew what to expect and now I have to anticipate different things. I also do not know how exactly to bring this up. Does anyone have suggestions for how to ask about why things seem different? In a way that is chill and not confrontational. because of the aforementioned autism I have trouble with tone. I was thinking of just saying I’d like to check in about boundaries and stuff with one of the QPR relationship checklists—does that seem like a good idea? Help me, internet!