I’ve been at my job for about a year and some change, and during that time I’ve had multiple coworkers hit on me, make sexual jokes, ask to be friends with benefits, and one even kissed me on the cheek when giving a hug. I’m talking about 3–4 different men.
Man #1 – “Andre” (M/27):
He’s technically in my usual dating age range—tall, attractive, tattoos, all that. He asked me to be friends with benefits, but I politely declined. I don’t like messing with people at work because my workplace is messy, everything gets around, and I don’t like people in my business. Also, he had already been involved with another coworker. That’s his business he’s single , but she’s very protective over him, even though they haven’t been fucked since December 2025 and it only happened a couple of times. About three weeks later, I told my “work mom” because I trust her. She told me that Andre had actually been asking about me and said he had a little crush on me. Apparently, the girl he was dealing with had taken him from another girl before, and now he wants me out instead of her, so it just felt like unnecessary drama I didn’t want to be part of.
Man #2 – “Daniel” (M/35):
One day at work, I mentioned I was bored and wanted to go home. He kept asking for my number, saying I should text him if I was bored. I tried to avoid it, but he kept pushing, so I gave it to him just so he would stop asking. He kept texting me, asking to hang out, and I kept declining, saying I was busy. Then he started asking for feet pics which was really weird to me, so I stopped responding and eventually blocked him.
Man #3 – “Charles” (M/56):
At first, he felt like a grandpa to me. We would sit together on breaks, talk, and I’d even bring him food because he was always nice. I never once saw him in a romantic way—his name in my phone was literally saved as “Work Grandad Charles.”
Over time, his behavior changed. He started calling me things like “baby girl,” which didn’t bother me at first since I’ve been called baby girl by elders all my life, but then it turned into “sexy” and “beautiful.” he ended up kissing me on the cheek during a hug. I pushed him back and told him not to do that. He just smiled and said, “you’ll come around,” then started making explicit and inappropriate offers. Since then, I’ve been keeping my distance. At this point, I’ve been distancing myself from the men at my job. All I really wanted was to be cool with people or have friends. And to be clear, all of these men know my age. I’ve even asked them, “Is 19 not too young for you?” and they all said they don’t mind because I have my own place and I’m independent. I don’t really wanna take it to a higher up due to the fact I don’t like all the attention and I don’t want people at my job knowing my business