Hello everyone, I am in a dire need of advise and I would love if I can get a stranger input on the situation that I'm currently in. Keep in mind my post might be a bit long and sorry for any grammatical errors since English isn't my mother language.
Anyways, I (F31) am currently pregnant with my 2nd child. My husband (M30) is sweet, loving and amazing person, but sometimes he really makes me mad, because he allows people to manipulate him.
The person in particular is friend of my husband which they knew each other back in hight school, they studied together, went to university together even tho that my husband dropped they stayed in touch.
When I met that guy I genuinely liked him but the problem was his fiance. She's a control freak, she wants to dictate everything that is happening in their life's and that kinda put a barrier between my husband and his friend.
Moving forward for when they came to visit us when I gave birth to our 1st son. My husband knew they were expecting and she was even what, 5 months or 6 months pregnant, but she made such a big deal that my husband told me the day that they came to see me and our son. I was genuinely very happy for them. Then we didn't have the chance to see each other due to her pregnancy and our parenting.
Fast forward to my son's 1st Birthday. It was big celebration becauee we didn't had the chance to invite our friends to the wedding so we agreed to invite them to our son's 1st birthday.
It was amazing, they came with their daughter, which is 6 months younger then my son. Everything went well and then after the birthday, crickets from their end.
My husband tried to arrange a meeting where we would drive to where they live approximately hour-hour and a half depending on the traffic. We arrange it, we went there in like 11am just to find out that they made plans at the same day, same hr but with different person.
Long story short our meeting was 10-15 min, because his fiance claimed that her daughter needs to sleep and they need to go home.
My husband was pretty upset about that because he didn't had the chance to see his friend, but I said don't worry, he'll reach out and arrange meeting soon.
Boy was I wrong, 1 year has passed since then and none of them reached out.
Now at the begging of the week, my husband decided to reach out. I asked him, why he keeps trying to reach out to them, when it's obvious that they doesn't want to see us. He called him multiple times, he claimed "he's busy now he'll call later" never called. He wrote him on Messenger and he would say "I'll respond later" never respond, and my husband said that he misses his friend and want to see him. I was okay with that but I asked him if it's possible the arrangement to be in our town, because I am having constant contractions and sometimes it's impossible to travel. And that 1h drive will be torture. He said "we'll see". Not only he agreed to their terms to go to their city, but also agreed on a time where it wouldn't be good mostly for our son and he didn't discuss it with me. When I confronted him about it, he started to say "How controlling i was, how recently all he wad doing was what I what", and trust me Reddit, all I wanted was to stay home laying in bed because for 5 months pregnant I am vomiting like crazy. I cannot eat anything else besides salad, everything else is making me nauseous. I started crying because all I ever do is to think about my child, knowing that I'm in pain always triggers a fear in me that my baby is also in pain. Which my therapist explained that it's normal to express fear when you're pregnant, because you're creating that life and you want to take care of it without any problems.
I suck it up and I was like in my head "fine let's do it your way, I don't want to cause troubles"
So today is a holiday in my country and nobody is working, they arranged to meet at 4pm. Meaning for us to leave at 3pm. 3pm arrives, we're not leaving, I asked what happened "some people canceled, my friend have some work to do". I start having contractions once again, my son was with little temperature (37°C), the weather was cold and rainy today and I was like if he didn't call till 4pm then I assumed we wouldn't go.
I was wrong. His friend called at 5pm he dressed and said "you don't need to cook, just come with me" I simply said "for the past 2h I have a contractions, your son had a temperature, I cannot take pills because I didn't eat, I'll start vomiting again" he started to say something but then he stopped and left. Our son was crying, I was and still am crying while I'm writing this, because I'm in a huge pain and I'm debating whether or not to call a friend from our town to took me to the hospital.
I felt so betrayed and I'm so mad that he choose to left me, just to go to another town.
I feel like I'm overreacting right now, maybe hormones, but I had a very hard pregnancy with my firstborn that I almost lost him twice. And I'm trying to be careful with my second one but when I feel pain, memories comes back and my first instinct is to think the worst.
So tell me Reddit. Am I overreacting or my feelings are justified. I feel very conflicted right now.