My Feelings About The Abortion
Hey everyone,
I (25m) wanted to share my feelings about the abortion my girlfriend (24f) had. These feelings have built up for so long and I feel like I have no one to talk to about it. I don’t want to bring it up to my girlfriend as she has a tough time dealing with her feelings about it, and I don’t want to burden her with my own. I also haven’t told my family or friends as I fear what they’ll think. So, this is the only place I feel I can get it out.
I want to be clear that I was supportive of her decision to have one, as we talked about it and decided that it was the best decision. However, I find myself having waves of different emotions coming over me 6 months post abortion.
I just wish we were in a better financial position to be able to bring a baby into this world, but we’re both post secondary graduates in entry level jobs, not making nearly enough to cover rent, a baby, student loan payments, and then have money left over to save for a house. I get mad at myself because if I feel like if I worked harder, I could’ve made it work. I could’ve had two jobs, I could’ve asked for help from my family, I could’ve lowered my spending habits.
We were also living in two different states at the time, only seeing each other every few months when I had enough PTO to take off and see her. She became pregnant on one of my visits. It would’ve been extremely difficult for me to move to her state where she was close to family, which factored into our decision to have the abortion.
I think about what could’ve been. Having our child, raising it together. Being a father. And I feel sad knowing that I won’t have a first pregnancy with her again.
I feel terrible seeing how my girlfriend’s emotions have affected her. She was devastated. I feel like it’s all my fault.
Is there any men on here who have similar feelings?
If you made it down here, thank you for reading.