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I have bilateral carpal tunnel. It was a very quick onset in february of this year but has been getting worse so I’m trying to get the surgery done before there is significant damage to the nerve. The plan to do an endoscopic procedure about a month apart (maybe a little longer) starting with my non dominant hand.

I have a lot of questions though. I live alone with minimal physcial support. I have had multiple surgeries (toes, abdominal, etc) and those doctors were not helpful explain expectations in terms of healing/support needs. They knew I lived alone and always said I would be fine without help (I was not and it hindered my recovery). So I kinda just don’t trust doctors will tell me what is realistic.

What does recovery and restrictions look like in terms of household chores? Cleaning, cooking, taking out trash, bathing, looking after my cat, etc. Do I need to change my sleeping positioning for optimal recovery? How long did you stay on pain meds? (I know this is very specific for each person, but I’m curious for a vauge timeline). I would really rather be over prepared and be happily surprised that I am doing good than scrambling for help while trying to recover.

I am in the US, major city. In october I got surgery for a very early stage gyn cancer. Didn’t need any further treatment or anything. However, I hated my doctor. He didn’t listen to me. He didn’t communicate with me. I have many complaints about him. I have noted abuse history in my chart which he acknowledged and he didn’t even ask for consent to examine me. He just told me he was gonna do it and it hurt worse than any exam I’ve ever had. I was never given the option for a famale doctor. They just assigned me to him because he had the soonest appointment.

Well, now I have a follow up appointment with him. And I don’t wanna go. I don’t even see the point in going because he doesn’t listen to me and he said that he doesn’t want to do scans for follow up. I don’t want him to touch me and I have a really hard time standing up for myself. I don’t have anyone who can come with me.

I just don’t even know what to do. My mother just yells at me for “being dramatic”. When I ask other forums they just say to report him and I don’t want to. I just want another doctor. But no one will explain to me how to do that. This hospital supposed to be the best option in the area for cancer care, like they are top ten in the country. The other hospitals are harder for me to get to since I don’t drive and just not nealy as good (and for some reason, predominantly the doctors are a bunch of old men)

I’m just so overwhelmed, I keep having meltdowns thinking about going to this appointment. I’m about to just cancel and ignore it. I’m not even worried about re-occurance right now. It has only been 6 months. I’m just so confused. No one will explain how to get a new doctor beyond going to an entirely new hospital system. Like, is that not possible now? I got assigned to a doctor I didn’t want and now I’m just stuck with him for the rest of my life?