Mom remembers my struggles "differently" and I want to scream.
I 35 f, always had anxiety attacks but was only officially diagnosed with GAD at around 14, then schizophrenia at around 17.
I was miserable, angry and sad all throughout my school years even before any official diagnosis, and consistantly begged to be let out of the school system and tried to explain how I was spiraling.
My parents, bless them, couldn't fathom 1 of their 3 perfect children was unable to finish school, and I had to fight and cry and scream and eventually have multiple teachers reach out to them to plead my case until finally they broke while I was in 10th grade.
My mom...remembers it all wrong. And actually has the audacity the argue over it.
In her mind I was perfectly fine until 10th, and then suddenly politely explained that I am done, and was understood, supported and respected for my decision.
She mentions talks with teachers that either never existed or were completely different, and is sure it was her idea to remove me from school when I said I'm not well.
While I understand it was a terrible and confusing time for my parents and mom may be remembering things from only her perspective, I was the one going through a mental breakdown and am obviously the one who remembers everything as it truly happened, second by excrutiating second.
We just had another arguement on the subject and I am absolutely seething.
My parents are amazing and I love them, but mom refuses to admit their long years of misunderstanding my pain, and thinks they were always receptive and supportive of my wants and needs when that is horribly wrong- I was their first ever experience with mental illness and they made a shitton of mistakes (completely understood and forgiven).
I'm tired of correcting her and honestly really disappointed that I can't get her to face facts.
I'm not asking for advice, I don't think rehashing the same arguement in any other way is worth my anger, just venting.
Can anyone relate?