u/Friendly_Account_291

I’m genuinely curious because I feel like I keep ending up in the same situation.

I get approached by guys fairly often, and we’d talk for weeks or even months, pero parang hindi siya nagpo-progress into anything serious or into an actual relationship. Sometimes I genuinely can’t tell if they like me romantically or if they’re just trying to be friends.

For context, I’m also very selective when it comes to guys. I don’t easily entertain people unless I see potential, but I also don’t like showing agad that I’m really interested in someone. Maybe mali yun, I honestly don’t know.

Kasi for me, I prefer clarity. I like guys who make their intentions obvious enough na hindi ako macoconfuse kung “gusto ba talaga ako nito?” or “friendly lang ba to?” I don’t want to assume either because ayoko naman magmukhang feelingera na magtatanong ng “Do you like me?” 😭

I also think medyo mabilis ako mawalan ng interest if things feel too vague for too long. Like, if you like me, then show me you like me? (Not in an over-the-top way, but just clear enough that I don’t have to overanalyze.)

For guys — when you genuinely like a girl, how do you usually make a move? Do you make your intentions obvious agad? Do you stay friends first? What makes you hesitate to take things further with someone you actually like?

I genuinely can’t tell if this guy is trying to be friends with me or if he’s interested in dating me.

For context, I’m a girl who doesn’t really approach guys. I’m friendly, yes, but I don’t usually build close personal connections with men. I also honestly don’t believe guys and girls can stay just friends long-term (please don’t attack me 😭). In my experience, one person eventually catches feelings.

He knows this about me too. He asked me before if I had guy friends, and I told him no. He also asked if I’ve ever had a boyfriend, and I said no.

I’m also the type who rarely lets people into my life. If I become close to someone, it’s intentional. I’m selective with who I let in.

Anyway, this guy asks me a LOT of questions about myself—my life, relationships, personality, opinions, etc. One time I literally asked him, “Why do you keep asking me so many questions?” and he said, “Because I’m interested in you.”

In my perspective anyone can be interested naman sa tao like even as a friend and not someone you’ll date.

But now he messages me on Instagram (I’m not really a Facebook/Messenger person and people around me know that I prefer IG). He sends memes, random chats, and I reply naman.

Here’s what confuses me though: He is very friendly and marami din siyang friend na girl, so maybe he is just trying to be friends with me.

Guys (or girls with experience lol), does this sound like someone trying to be friends, or someone slowly testing the waters to date me?

If a guy is usually makulit in person tas bigla ka inaddd sa soc med and sends random vids or memes tas nung naguusap na sa socmed biglang di na masyado makulit in person WTH IS THAT?! paki explain poo thank youu

A guy asked me if I ever had a relationship and I responded “Never” but i had to admit that I talked to few people. 2 months pinakamatagal na talking stage sakin and I reject guys that doesn’t align with my values because my father told me if a guy wants you, you will never wonder if he likes you or not.

I am close to my family, I don’t have guy friends because I select people who will enter my life and I have standards pero i make sure that my standards are also qualities that I have myself.

Does that make me intimidating?

Ask ko lang po whenever a guy approaches me they always ask me whether I have a guy friend or not. I just want to ask bakit ba nila tinatanong yun and

kung meron what do guys think of a girl who have guy friends and sa girl who doesn’t have guy friends and is very selective.

I noticed a pattern whenever guys approach me first and try to talk to me.
Even before they really get to know me, some of them already seem to have an impression that:
I’m a “playgirl”
I play with men’s feelings
I probably have a lot of guy friends
But none of that is true for me.
For context:
I’ve never had a boyfriend
I don’t really have guy friends
I’m very selective with people I let into my life
I’m quite private and don’t open up easily
Also, I don’t approach them—they’re the ones who initiate conversation with me.
What’s confusing is that this assumption sometimes seems to come first, even before they ask me anything personal. Then later on, they still ask questions like:
Do I have guy friends?
Do I have past relationships?
Do I talk to a lot of guys?
It feels like they already have a “story” about me before actually knowing me.
Why does this happen? What makes some guys assume that kind of personality just from seeing or meeting me?