r/AskPinoyMen

Guys, what instantly makes a woman attractive to you? Could be physical, personality-wise, mindset, habits, anything. Spill 👀

Single men, yung wala pa din gf pero may crush or may ina-admire, bakit hindi nyo sila pinupursue? May times din ba na delulu kayo? Do you yearn for that person? 😂

Anong reason? Dahil ba most of you guys mas focus nalang sa career or naging comfort na yung thought na mas may peace of mind kapag mag-isa ka lang? Idkkk 🤷‍♀️

A. Asawa mo

B. Father mo

May trip po kami pa Ilocos. Hometown nung father ni hubby. Gagamitin car ni daddy nya kase mas spacious and may kids din kasi. Naisip ko lang if sa harap ba dapat ako o sa likod na lang. Ano ba dapat? 😅

I know flowers seem like such a small thing, but for some reason this has been sitting heavy on my heart lately.

Months ago, I told my boyfriend na I’d love to receive flowers someday. Di naman that day agad. I sent him link because he asked where to get one. Was not asking for expensive ones, just flowers. I rarely ask for any material thing in our relationship, it’s not a financial issue because he can afford it if i ask.

We’ve been together for almost 3 years, and I’ve only received flowers twice, both during anniversaries. What hurts more is that after I opened up about wanting them, nothing really changed.

I think for me it’s less about the flowers themselves and more about feeling listened to and remembered. Like something I expressed mattered enough to act on.

I’m genuinely trying to understand though — for people who don’t naturally give flowers even after their partner asks, what are usually the reasons?

My boyfriend has a female coworker that keeps triggering my jealousy even though nothing is explicitly romantic. They work closely, he helps her sometimes (rides/carrying stuff), she shares food with him, and he casually mentions her often. He’s transparent about everything, which makes me feel guilty for even feeling this way.

The problem is our relationship also started from emotional closeness/familiarity, so I think proximity scares me more than it should.

I don’t want to be controlling, but I also can’t tell if my feelings are valid or if I’m just anxious.

So, for context, I’m a 1st year college student, NGSB, and I’m currently pursuing someone I genuinely like. Recently, I found out that she had casual sex with her childhood friend, even though that guy already had a girlfriend at the time. Ever since I learned about it, I’ve been feeling conflicted and uncomfortable. Part of me still wants to continue pursuing her because I enjoy talking to her and I see good qualities in her, but another part of me keeps thinking about what she did and whether it says something about her values and character.

I know everyone has a past, and I understand that people make mistakes or go through phases in life. However, I can’t deny that the situation gives me an “ick” because personally, I don’t think I could ever do something like that, especially knowing another person could get hurt. It makes me question if our morals and views on relationships are compatible in the long run.

At the same time, I’m wondering if I’m being too judgmental or insecure since I’ve never been in a relationship before. I don’t want to ignore my feelings just to make things work, but I also don’t want to throw away a potentially good connection because of her past. Right now, I’m trying to figure out whether this is something I can genuinely accept and move past, or if it’s a sign that we may simply have different values when it comes to relationships and respect for other people.

If so saan at pano kayo nagkakilala? And any challenges pag foreigner asawa niyo?

Ako kase parang gustong gusto ko makapag asawa ng korean HAHAHAHA

Thinking of uping my gear. Feeling ko mukhang teenager ako na coin purse at card holder ajg dala. Madalas nakakalimutan kobpa ang isa kaya gg sa driver's license. Napapaisip ako kung Long wallet pero gusto ko sana may lagayan ng coins. Wala akong mahanap ol na genuine leather. Una, shigetsu sana kaya lang hindi papa leather. So ngayon naghahanap pa tuloy. Napaisip rin if mag classy na Lacoste bifold na wallet na lang. At least may coin. Con lang is need ko magbawas ng card.

Reco pls?

Reddit men Only pls

successful* bobita ampt

Men, what are your thoughts here? I have done everything. Inayos ko insecurities ko, hindi na ako nagdududa. I give him personal space whenever he wants. Dun sa friend group na di ako ok, hinahayaan ko na lang to be with him. I do not start a fight nor make our fights worse. Pero he is still cold and is pushing me away.

Ilang beses na niya ako muntik iwanan pero nagbebeg ako kasi sinasabi ko aayusin ko, which I did. Inayos ko na. Bawat ganung instance namin, ako lagi nagbebeg. Possible ba na I am being taken for granted kasi alam niya may magmakaaawa sa kanya?

Tinitry ko siya suyuin ngayon. To men, possible ba na gusto niyo lang magpasuyo kaya nagsstay pa rin kayo kahit cold kayo? I do not know what to do anymore. What are your thoughts?

For context, I (25F) have been dating this guy (29M) for months now. I just notice the differences in energy. May feeling ako na gusto ko siya lagi kasama, kausap, kachat (im super clingy) but i think its not the same for him. He sometimes leaves me on read and/or delivered for a day.

Anyway, gusto ko lang malaman thoughts ninyo about dating someone younger. Di ba talaga match ng energy? Thanks!

My boyfriend is a working student and has no parents (both deceased), and he is supporting din his younger sister financially. He really works hard and I'm proud of him at aminado naman siya na he's still learning how to budget his money properly.

This cut-off kasi nagkaroon ng dispute sa sahod niya tapos sakto pa na birthday ng kapatid niya kaya ayun, kinulang siya sa budget. I tried offering some help pero ayaw niya since hindi ko naman daw problema yun, at nahihiya daw siya na magmukhang walang pera sakin which I don't mind naman. Kaso ngayon alam kong madami siyang need bilhin for a school activity at nag aalala ako na wala siyang pambili. If I offer help again, alam kong idedecline niya lang ulit so plano ko sanang magsend nalang sa bank acc niya then tell him na bayaran nalang niya sa sahod niya. Is this a good idea or hayaan ko nalang siya na gumawa ng paraan to buy the things he need? I wanna help him in a way na hindi ko matatapakan pride niya. Binigyan ko naman na siya ng food as baon sa office para less gastos sa kanya.

title hahaha idk ba bat lagi ako napupunta sa ganitong sitwasyon. Tho nagkakagusto naman sila sa akin nung una tas kapag nire-reciprocate ko na, sasabihin nila na "ang genuine at caring" ko raw tapos doon na naman nila i-eend yung sa amin. 🥲 wtd?

yung type na he'll fly you up in the sky, head over heels, tapos laglag ka lang out of nowhere. you thought both of you are doing well, pero he left mid convo and you're like?? okay hahaha so i'm genuinely curious bakit may ganito? why do some guys need to get you hooked into them tapos hindi ka naman pala kaya ma pursue? or was he not genuine in the first place?

i know men are simple. diretso yung makina ng lalaki eh. so what's the reason behind this?

[asking this as your sister lang so that i know what to avoid next time. mahirap kasi pag i like someone, i'll pour out my time and emotions sa kanya. tapos mawala lang. so yeah, i really want some good male pov. thank you pinoys!]

Kanina, I was with someone and kumain kami sa Ikinari Steak sa One Ayala. I was wearing my cap, then bigla niya sinabi na dapat daw tanggalin ko habang kumakain kasi it’s considered rude to wear a cap when dining in. Honestly, ngayon ko lang narinig yun, and sanay naman ako na nakacap kahit saan without anyone calling it out.

Medyo na-bother lang ako sa totoo lang, bothered sa the fact na I’ve been doing it my whole life hahaha.

Update: Thanks everyone!! To clarify, I do remove my cap when entering an establishment pero binabalik ko rin talaga hahaha nakasanayan lang talaga ever since. I remember my mom calling me out about it pero it came to a point na, she stopped. Tumataas na rin kasi hairline ko kaya I used my cap to avoid it being seen.

I have an ex and a workmate where every time I turn around, I saw him staring at me longer (death stare). Even when I was with my workmates and we’re waiting to ride the jeepney, when he was about to ride the jeepney, while we we were still waiting, he will have the death stare again like the stare is like planning to kill me kind of stare. On bed, when I was on top, he will have the death stare again. Even when we were about to break up, and I was about to ride the jeepney, the last contact we had, he has the death stare towards me again.

I just realized them now. I never had the chance to ask him because I forget to ask or our relationship dynamic happened so fast even if our relationship was 1 year already, I just didn’t noticed the simple cues until we broke up. He just always has the death stare towards me before and after the relationship. Also, I notice this from some workmates I know where I’m talking and I’m not gazing at them but when I shift my gaze, they just have this head down, eyes up but like they’re a predator and I’m a prey kind of look. Why would you often do that? I don’t ask these questions personally because I feel like it’s awkward or scary to even ask.