u/karlikha

I was diagnosed with ADHD, Bipolar, and Obsessive Compulsive Personality 6 years ago. It was hard because I was in my early 30s during that time. I vowed to myself to keep on working on myself and heal from my traumas in the past. It has been six years and I am already healed but I am still struggling with my ADHD, Bipolar (with the depressive state; I no longer get angry too much because I have lived solo and embrace peace that God has blessed me for 3 years). I have been working so much for my healing and managing my mental challenges and it has been exhausting already. I wanted a clean house but I don't have the energy to clean, I save money so that I could pay for a cleaner. I guess that I got tired already during the past few years of being hyper independent and juggling everything(managing my condo, taking care of my lola, career, hobbies, travel) and all the tragedies in life. Lately, I consulted my psychiatrist. She told me that I have to accept the reality that I am no longer the girl who used to be very active and who can do everything because I am also aging. I have been dating men and I only mentioned to one guy that I am suffering to a mental challenges but it turned out that he was not serious with me. From then on, I never tell to guys abouth my mental health. Iyon mga na memeet ko lalaki, hindi sila good sa mental health ko kaya di ko tinutuloy ang journey. I have been praying for a calm man and a good communicator kasi hindi na ako sanay sa mga sigawan at away since I lived solo. It is hard because I am already emotionally healed but the challenges of ADHD, Bipolar, Obsessive Compulsive Personality is a lifetime. I am taking medications by the way. There are times that I appreciate my isolation because people misinterpret me like lazy. I do not know how to disclose to a man about my situation. I am still learning about my mental challenges and I have already accepted who I am. I gave myself a timeline to work on managing myself even though matanda na ako. Tumigil na din ako sa dating app and I focused on myself now. But I was thinking kung dumating na ang opportunity na may mag-approach ulit sa akin, papaano ko sasabihin sa kanila ang struggles ko eh sa mga kaibigan at pamilya pa lang pagod na ako kaka-explain. Parang after all these years, iyon doctor ko lang nakakaintindi sa situation ko at sarili ko. To be honest pagod na ako sa situation ko pero I need to keep on going. Sa buong buhay ko, pagod na ako mag-alaga ng mga loved ones na may sakit (half of my life spent on that) at sa panahon kailangan ko na alagaan sarili ko, inabot na din ako ng pagod. Pero kailangan. I keep working on myself to be a better woman and good wife in the future. Lumapit ako dito kasi gusto ko ng point of view ng lalaki. In my heart I have the desire to have a family but sometimes natatakot ako . Kung makita ko na iyon lalaki na gusto ko pumasok sa relasyon papaano ko sasabihin sa kaniya ang kalagayan ko? Kung, ikaw nasa sitwasyon na na meet ang isang tulad ko would you marry someone who is like me?

Hello guys. I just want to ask the POV of men here. I am emotionally tired kasi mahina ang gay radar ko. :( Straight talaga ang hanap ko. I appreciate your help.

After 3 years of using Bumble, I am now officially deleting my dating app. It has been a tiring journey. I have realized that I have been chasing love, which is not right. I know that I am getting old and my dream of having a family hasn't materialized yet. But this time, I lift everything to the Lord. I read somewhere that chasing God and the right man will walk. <3

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I am already tired of being victimized by closeted gays for many times? I'm older and prefer not to waste time again. It is very exhausting. My gay radar is low. How can I determine it in a short span of time?

I' ve been living alone for years since my grandmother died. I’m a 39-year-old woman, and this year has felt especially empty because I moved to a new city far from my relatives and friends. . I only have a few friends, by the way. I work from home, so I barely have any human interaction.

I go to the gym daily. On Saturdays, I usually do chores, dine out, and go to church .But I struggle every Sunday. Sometimes I join a walking group, but I still can’t form close friendships because everyone just goes home after the walk. I also join art workshops.

I also can’t join active sports groups because I have a metal implant in my leg. There aren’t many groups or volunteer opportunities available on Sundays either.

I feel sad because I lack human interaction. I also tried dating apps, hoping to find a partner, but they always end up failing. I live alone in a condominium, and sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy from being alone.  Sometimes, I find myself doomscrooling for hours.

Aside from going to church, strolling around the mall, and traveling, what else can I do?

Women who have no siblings, no children, and are not married — how do you cope up?

This question is open also to everyone, baka may suggest kayo..

I’ve been living alone for years since my grandmother died. I’m a 39-year-old woman, and this year has felt especially empty because I moved to a new city far from my relatives and friends. Sa BGC. I only have a few friends, by the way. I work from home, so I barely have any human interaction.

I go to the gym daily. On Saturdays, I usually do chores, dine out, and go to church sa the Feast. But I struggle every Sunday. Sometimes I join a walking group, but I still can’t form close friendships because everyone just goes home after the walk. I also joined Tita Run Club pero wala akong na-form na friendship kasi rare lang ang walk sa area namin, and the Breakfast Club. I also join art workshops.

I also can’t join active sports groups because I have a metal implant in my leg. There aren’t many groups or volunteer opportunities available on Sundays either.

I feel sad because I lack human interaction. I also tried dating apps, hoping to find a partner, but they always end up failing. I live alone in a condominium, and sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy from being alone.  Sometimes, I find myself doomscrooling for hours.

Aside from going to church, strolling around the mall, and traveling, what else can I do? Doon din sana sa may more human interaction and exposure because I lack a social life. And I want to be honest gusto ko pa rin po magka-asawa huhuhu...

Mga titas, what else could I do? 

Hi, I am a Filipina dating (online) a Malaysian Chinese who grew up and lives currently in Eaton. I am just wondering if men from these areas, or generally from England, have a provider mindset, or are they the type who go 50-50 in a relationship?

Aside from Breakfast Sunday Club and walking/running clubs, are there any other interactive community/groups here in BGC every Sunday?