Weight gain and desire / intimacy?
I’m a 32 year old decently attractive woman. Last year I had a surgery that left me pretty much immobile until this month. The combo of that and having to take prednisone has made me gain around 40 lbs. on top of that I ended a long term relationship.
I miss having sex. A lot. I want to get out there again, but I’m feeling self conscious with my weight gain. Im used to being desirable, but I don’t really feel that way right now with the weight gain. I have a bit of a belly which I’ve never had before.
Men - how much do you care if the woman you’re with is on the chubbier side and doesn’t feel as confident in herself as she could? I’m not looking for something super serious. Looking to go on fun dates that end in good sex. But I still have standards and don’t want to be treated poorly because I’m not in great shape. Any advice and perspective is appreciated. Thank you
Edit: I am in the process of losing weight (since some of you comment unhelpful things like “lose the weight”). These things don’t happen overnight especially with someone who has limited mobility to exercise and is on a medication that causes weight gain.