I (22F) have been dating my boyfriend (36M) on and off for about a year. Recently, we got into an argument after he saw that men were reacting to my Instagram selfie with heart emojis. Some of these men I don’t even know. He accused me of cheating and questioned why men felt comfortable messaging me if I’m in a relationship.
I told him I couldn’t control what other men do, and that his reaction felt insecure—especially since I was just starting to feel more confident posting pictures of myself. When I called him insecure, he got upset and said I’m “not the prettiest girl he’s been with.” That really hurt me, especially since I already struggle with insecurity.
I left, and afterward he apologized and said he didn’t mean it—but the comment stuck with me. I still feel like he meant it, and it made me feel like I’m not enough.
A few weeks later, he asked if I’d be open to having a threesome with another woman. I said no, because I want a monogamous relationship and it goes against my boundaries. That situation made me feel even more like I’m not enough for him.
This all happened a few months ago, but it still bothers me. I feel insecure around him now and don’t feel beautiful in the relationship. I’m not sure how to move forward or forgive him, and I’m wondering if I’m overreacting or being too sensitive..