My maternal uncle helped his friend’s son have a love marriage. He planned their elopement and arranged all the wedding proceedings, including the legal formalities. Now I feel really upset with him and keep questioning whether he would have supported it in the same way if it had been his own son, daughter, nephew, or niece. In the past, when I told my parents about my relationship, they were completely against it and asked me to leave the boy because of the caste differences, saying it would harm the reputation of both sides of the family. Eventually, the boy married a girl of his family’s choice. I am still unmarried, and these incidents constantly make me question the hypocrisy within my family. They are fine when someone else has an intercaste marriage and even attend all the functions happily. So why were they unable to believe that my relationship would also be accepted by society in the same way?
PS: I have moved on and am happy in my current life. I am independent and able to fulfill my needs. It’s just incidents like these that sometimes make me angry and remind me of that phase.