I (29M) have been with my girlfriend (26F) for around 2 years. She is truly the woman of my dreams - super smart, kind, and hot. I have never been happier than I am in this relationship and I think we communicate and get along quite well. I also want to acknowledge that the problem I am about to discuss is a fortunate one to have, but I am genuinely seeking advice because I don't know what to do.
Basically, no matter what I do, she does not seem sexually satisfied. When we are hanging out alone, all she wants to do is have sex - and I mean multiple times for hours and hours. I just can't keep up. I am concerned that I am not giving her the relief she needs when we have sex. I had a really hard time getting her off at the beginning of our relationship. For context, she has some past trauma and otherwise has only been with me. I have had a few relationships and generally have confidence in what I'm doing in bed. However, I can't tell if I am leaving her unsatisfied every time we are intimate or if she is truly that insatiable. I try to talk to her about this and she tells me everything is great, but I can tell that often she is sexually frustrated. For example, if she is trying to initiate and I am not in the mood, she gets visibly frustrated and upset but tries to play it off like she is fine. Then she does this weird thing where she is overly nice to me for the next several hours, almost like she is trying to compensate or make herself feel better? Maybe it all boils down to her having way higher libido than I do, but it feels more like I am doing something wrong.
I am thinking that I need to have a really candid conversation with her about all of this, but I am not sure how to approach it. I don't want to sound accusatory, embarrass her, or make her feel like she is too much for me. I recognize that this doesn't sound like a real problem to a lot of people, but it feels real to me. I love her so much, and I don't want to lose her or do anything wrong. I want to give her what she wants, but I don't feel like I can. How should I talk to her?
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Edit: Thank you everyone for the advice. There were some conflicting opinions but the majority of you said I should talk to her so that's what I did. After a quick session this morning, I said something along the lines of - can I ask you something? Sometimes I feel that I can't meet your needs and I love you so much, I want to do everything I can to show you. Do you feel that way, or am I overthinking this? Fellas, she started crying immediately, which isn't that out of nowhere for her (she's got a hard shell but usually is very sweet and sensitive when we're alone) but that's not where I thought this would go at all. She started gushing about how lucky she is to be cared for, she never thought she would feel so comfortable with someone, etc. All of those comments about this being a trauma response - this seems pretty on the mark right? I basically just hugged her and told her how much I love her, and said that the door is always open to talk about things she wants. I told her I'm open to anything and she said she would think about it, but that it's hard to imagine due to lack of experience. I feel okay about how it went overall, but maybe did not get to the root of the problem. Should I let it go for now?