Realistically, where would one find virgin women?
Hi all. 28M virgin here. Somewhat by choice. Haven't had many chances to lose it, and I am a bit shy/awkward at first, but I'm also funny and witty sometimes, and I feel like I probably have enough "rizz/game" or whatever you wanna call it, to actually pull it off, if I made a proper effort to go to clubs/bars to enter the "realm" of hookup culture, and lose it to some random woman.
The thing is, I don't want a random woman. I want someone in a similar situation. Why? I wanna do it with a girlfriend, who's on the same boat as me. Or maybe even find a girl, and wait for marriage. I guess it's just a romantic fantasy that I want to fulfill. I have nothing against non-virgins. It's just the way that I'm wired.
I know this question has been asked before, but the usual advice given is just "go to your local church/religious community". And while that is probably solid advice for religious people, it wouldn't work for me as I'm not religious. Nothing against religious people, but I'm also not gonna start attending some local church, and pretend to be something I'm not just to find a girlfriend, as that's deceitful and just plain wrong. Besides, I don't think that would work on my country, since most people here are encouraged to lose it at a young age, despite it being "catholic" on the surface.
Now, since church is out of the question, where do we go from here? There are no nightclubs or bars specifically for virgins. There is no "virginfest" or whatever it was called, anywhere in Europe. There's no irl space taylored for virgin men and women to meet, and to look for a romantic partner. So my only option seems to be online dating.
But online dating is not exactly ideal. First of all, there are no apps specifically for virgins in my region. The closest thing we have is an app called Salt, but that's an app for Christians, so it wouldn't work for me. It's also completely deserted, like most apps that aren't the conventional ones (Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc...). And most people on mainstream dating apps aren't virgins. And those who are, usually don't advertise it, so I'd have no way to know. The amount of virgin women who are actively looking for virgin men on dating apps, is probably less than 1%.
And even if I'm lucky enough to stumble upon such a woman, what is the likelihood that we'll match? Apps like those are usually purely based on looks, and they're worse than ever before, if you're not a Chad McHot. Long gone are the days of 2017-2019, where a guy like me could pull off 15+ matches in a week. These days, I'm lucky f I get 3 matches a week, and I'm left wondering if they're bots lol.
So yeah, I really don't know what to do. And I'm starting to worry, as I'm at a point where I'm slowly entering a new stage in life, possibly moving to a different country in a few months, and lots of things are changing, and I didn't want this box to be left unchecked. I'm also close to 30, which is scary, and I wish my romantic life was at the very least, headed somewhere when I got there.
Anyways, sorry for the rant. But if any of you have suggestions, I'm all ears.