Husband feeling.. Lonely?
We had our daughter last January and I'm just missing my wife is the best way I can describe it.
We've been married 8 years and were engaged 5 years before that while she finished school so we've known each other for awhile. We were never really like all over each other after the first couple years but after she became pregnant the intimacy completely vanished. She had a rough pregnancy with a large subchorionic hemotoma, we were instructed to refrain from sexual activity. Everything turned out okay and we've got a beautiful baby girl now but after two years I was hoping things could start to go back to normal. I've been there helping as much as I could early on, oddly I was the only one who could get the baby to wake up for night feedings and I've always helped with diapers and bottles. I'm not sure if it's postpartum related, it just seems like she doesn't really like me all that much anymore. No touch, smiling at me basically only when I'm playing with our daughter, everything I do seems like an annoyance to her. I know I don't remember everything, neither does she but the reactions are completely different. If she forgets something I understood and don't make a big deal out of it because that's a discussion that's not worth getting into. She can be just straight up mean when I forget the same thing. I stay plenty busy, we both work long hours and I'm in field service so my schedule can be irregular sometimes. We come home and make supper, play with the daughter, then bath time and she gets put down for bed at 8:30. At this time my wife usually goes to bed and I'm up until 11pm or so cleaning and doing dishes. She's still breastfeeding so there's all those pump parts that I really wish I didn't have to wash anymore. Kisses don't seem to mean much to her, forget cuddling in bed, "it's too hot". I've tried talking to her about it but she's uninterested or she'll listen and not really give any response back. I'm just looking for advice, maybe this will pass? I just miss my wife and want her back
Tldr: Husband trying to win wife's affection back after child