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Feel free to keep it vague if you don't want to get too personal.

Not just a song you liked, but one where you actually stopped and thought, Damn, this is exactly what I’m feeling/thinking.

What song was it?

What actually helped you move on after heartbreak?

For example, something you’d never expect an INTJ to be into based on how you normally come across.

What’s yours?

INTJ males and females:

• Men: Would you consider yourself traditionally masculine?
• Women: Would you consider yourself traditionally feminine?

By "traditional," I mean identifying with many of the traits commonly associated with your sex.

Masculine traits:

• Rational/logical
• Stoic
• Assertive
• Independent
• Competitive
• Decisive
• Protective
• Risk-taking
• Confident

Feminine traits:

• Empathetic
• Nurturing
• Gentle
• Cooperative
• Emotionally expressive
• Patient
• Compassionate
• Affectionate
• Relationship-oriented

If yes, which traits fit you best? If not, which traits do you think describe you instead?

If you believe morality is subjective, what makes some actions feel universally wrong? If you believe it's objective, what do you think grounds those moral truths?

I'm more interested in your reasoning than your conclusion.

I'm looking for well-written fictional characters who are generally considered INTJs.

Who are your favorites, and why do you think they fit the type? I'm interested in characters from any medium anime, movies, TV shows etc

Feel free to mention characters you think are often mistyped too. I'd love to hear your reasoning rather than just a list.

I often see people assume INTJs are naturally more intelligent than other personality types, but I'm not sure it's that simple. Do you think there's any real correlation, or is it mostly a stereotype?

For anyone who's curious, here's the Mensa Norway online IQ test I tried: https://test.mensa.no/Home/Test/unknown

Society depends on shared rules, traditions, and institutions to function, but individuals are often the ones who drive change. Throughout history, many people who challenged social norms were initially rejected, yet some later proved to be instrumental in advancing civilization.

Do you think society should always take priority over the individual, or should individuals be willing to oppose society when they believe it's wrong?

What kind of jokes do you make, and what kind of humor do you enjoy? What actually makes you laugh?

Dark humor, sarcasm, dry wit, absurd memes, intellectual jokes, satire, cringe, or something completely different?

What are your top three hobbies, and what got you into them? Feel free to share why you love them or how long you've been doing them!

I’m not saying I want to become some ice cold psychopath. But I’ve realized that compassion, generosity, and selflessness have never really paid off for me not in the short term, and not in the long term either.

That doesn’t mean compassion should be thrown away entirely. Doing that would be just as unhealthy. It still has its place with family and people you genuinely love, when someone is truly in serious trouble, and when maintaining good relationships with colleagues, clients, customers, or similar situations.

But the version of me that would pour endless time, energy, and pieces of myself into trying to lift people out of whatever they're going through that version is gone.

Every major problem I've faced, I ended up dealing with alone. So I’ve come to believe that, in most cases, other people should do the same, unless they're in a situation where outside intervention is genuinely necessary.

I have a question for INTJs.

When you help someone, do you actually enjoy it, or do you do it because it seems like the right or most practical thing to do?

Does it depend on the person?

I'd like to hear your experiences.

Question for the INTJs here.

How long does it usually take you to realize you see someone as a romantic partner?

And once you know you like them, how long does it take before you think, "Yeah, I could actually see myself marrying this person"?

I want to find out how other INTJs experience this.

I'm curious whether there's a common profile among INTJs. If you've taken a Big Five test, what were your scores for:

• Openness
• Conscientiousness
• Extraversion
• Agreeableness
• Neuroticism

From what I've seen, I suspect Openness and Extraversion are relatively similar across INTJs, while Conscientiousness, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism are much more variable but let's find out.

As an INTJ, do you tend to expect things to work out in the long run, or do you usually anticipate problems and worst-case scenarios first?

Do you see your outlook as optimism, pessimism, realism? Has it changed as you've gotten older?

The one you always come back to because you know it'll lift your spirits.

What's yours?

Not necessarily the saddest song more the one that somehow captures the feeling, the memories, or the thoughts you couldn't put into words. You know the one you may avoid.

I know, I know… INTJs don’t have such things.

But if you had to pick one… what would it be?

How do you decide which life path is worth pursuing when different values lead to completely different futures?

I watched a funny sketch that joked INTJs run on coffee.

Let's see if the stereotype holds up.

• How strong do you like your coffee?
• How many cups do you drink per day?