Husband was found talking to other girls
11 momths ago i found out my husband of 10 years was talking to girls online. Swapping nudes. Specfically girls on reddit. He said he was planning to talk to me but i found put before he did. So i gave him a chance. Well 3 months later I found out he was watching girls on instagram and 1 boundary we put in place was no watching videos of girls because thats how his reddit thing started was from instagram and saw someone comment about reddit. So i set boundaries 1 of which is no lying. Full transparency. He deleted all social media(on his own) he has worked and changed a lot but i found out Monday that he lied.. he said he never used snapchat and he did i found out by asking to see the messages on reddit so i could know the full extent. He deleted everyone that wasnt family. Now i kinda wanna ask him to delete it all together.
Our marriage wasnt perfect we got married young had no clue whst a good marriage looked like I had faults. I lacked when it came to affection(not blaming myself just taking accountability for things i did).
I keep going back to the fact that i had a clear boundary set. I love the man and he seems willing to do anything to help gain trust back. We plan to do therapy. What would you do? Would you walk away take a step back because thats what you said with the inital boundary? Would you stay and do the therapy before making the decision? I have no one to talk to about it...