Guests wearing white at weddings…
So my wedding day has come and gone, and it was amazing, other than the fact that the only thing I asked of my guest was to not wear white. Our theme was A Midsummer Nights Dream, so I asked our guests to wear lots of colors and florals... I was so excited. I’m a very type-B kind of person, so I didn’t really care about anything else… that was the ONLY thing I asked of our guests. I asked them to reserve that color out of respect for the bride and the groom because I wasn’t the only one wearing white, so was my fiancé.
I had about 10-15 people message me beforehand about white dresses and whether they were okay to wear to the wedding… I turned down all of them because I couldn’t fathom how they had the audacity to even ask THE BRIDE if wearing white was okay (and btw most of these texts were on THE WEEK of our wedding. I was stressed out enough). I’m just dumbfounded… mainly because I feel like nobody listened to our ONE WISH, but it’s also a respect thing as well.
Come to the day of the wedding, I still had prominent family members wearing majority white, or just plain white all together. I pride myself on being a very kind human being, so maybe that’s why they felt like they could take advantage of my personality, but I especially would never do this to a bride. I’ve always tried to wear solid colors to weddings so the bride has her moment… I thought that was a normal thought to have… because I know how important it is for the day.
I’ve just reached the point of “I don’t understand” and I feel as if I need some insight on how to handle the disrespect. I thought everyone I invited would respect us as a couple and that just did not happen… it’s been a bit sad. Like I’m paying for you to eat a great meal, even invited you in the first place, and they still took advantage of our kindness?? I know as a woman this may be over reactive to some, but it’s THE ONLY thing I asked of them. Help.