My ex is weaponizing his mental health to escape accountabilities.
Context: My ex attempted to unalive himself while we were living together. Ako yung nag asikaso sa kanya sa Emergency ward ng NCMH and it’s a very traumatic experience for me. Walang friends and family na gusto pumunta sa kanya that time, I had to beg his own mother to get him out of the hospital. Maraming factors leading to the break up like him not being financially stable, his mental health struggle (and I supported him nung di sya nag work for a month because of it) his cheating that he admitted during our break up and more. Being in a relationship with him also destroyed my mental health. Sobrang naubos ako kaya I decided to break up nung feeling ko I was being taken advantage by this person.
Sinumbong ko kasi sya sa ate nya na he was posting our private emails during our break up na taken out of context, cropped to paint me na naghahabol and a villain in his story siguro. (I’m keeping tabs sa kanya to see if naghahanap ba sya ng new work so he could pay me?) Natrigger lang ako ng malala because of it kasi nanahimik na ako and I felt disrespected after all of my efforts for him.
Then I found out na the day of our last meeting, sinabi nya sa Mama nya na nasa hospital daw sya and na-dengue. His family has to borrow money in the middle of the night kasi nag-send pa sya ng medical document about dengue test. And plot twist: Nagpost pa sya ng thirst trap nya that day so paanong nasa hospital?
So, na bring up ko sa Ate nya na kakakita lang namin and wala syang dengue kasi back to back yung volleyball game nya. I emailed yung clinic about the medical test and it turns out na result sya from last year. He edited it to make it appear na recent sya para mapaniwala yung Mama nya para makahingi ng more money. He falsified a medical document so it could fit his narrative.
His family is not well off. His mum is a helper sa relative nila so parang naawa ako when I found out about his scam. Galit na galit yung Ate nya when she found out the truth kasi imbes na makatulong, dagdag pa sa inaalala sa family nila.
Dahil wala syang job now Mama nya nag cover ng expenses and rent ng dorm nya. My ex met new friends from volleyball na medyo mga rich kids, I think he was trying to keep up appearances na he can afford the lifestyle.
When confronted about it, he sent this email na vague unaliving threat na naman. He deactivated his socials for a few days and blocked his family. Now back online na yung socials niya.
More context: During our relationship, he bought a cat. I allowed him kasi he was telling me it will help him with his mental health. Nung una naalagaan nya yung cat then naging neglected na. Nung break up namin, I decided to take care of it kasi napamahal na sya sa another cat ko.
Marami rin ako sacrifices for him and buti nakakalaya na ako, pero now may utang pa syang 16k which is supposedly gagamitin ko pang medication ng isang dog ko. May therapist asked me na if the stress is worth it ng paniningil ko. My friends are saying it’s just money, kikitain mo yan (well in this economy and government every peso counts.)
Nabanggit na nya he met someone new, lawyer daw and while I’m experiencing PTSD dahil sa kanya naka move on na sya in less than month after our break up and maybe ready for his next victim. Parang galit na galit ako at gusto gumanti. I feel so angry kasi why I let this person in my life. Nag message ako sa bagong rebound guy nya to warn him. Hindi ko sure if I’ll message his friends about sa ginawa nya. See